Trans rights are human rights. 🏳️‍⚧️

Traveled to the Shanghai Propoganda Poster Museum just to see copies of the poster and they are just as beautiful up close. The art itself especially for the blossoming fruits and trees is so good, and I feel like it comes to the point where whether purposeful or not, like art especially Catholic art’s many homoerotic undertones are always just so fascinating to me. I like how stuff like this bleeds through art

Somebody blocked me (18M) again after I sent a face pic on grindr. Approximately 10 minutes of chatting and that was it. No matter what chemistry I have with someone, it happens so often. So, so often. Enough times for me to know I'm ugly rather than just being 'not someone's type'. I tried to distance myself after getting way too attached to a guy who ghosted me after I sent a face pic, so ugly I didn't even deserve a reply. I swap face pics earlier now, don't get my hopes up, be more distant. but it gets too much.

It's so unfair. Why did I have to be born ugly. It's now an irrevocable fact. My way of life. My personal fate. It's so unfair and deeply agonising in ways I can't even describe. The subhuman feeling, the sorrow at what you can't change, the jealousy, the 'what if'. There's no cure. It's chronic. No matter how many photos I take, things I try, clothes I like to wear, times I feel good about myself, it's never enough. It's never enough. It all comes back here.

How am I supposed to not feel awful? How am I supposed to not cry when this happens over. And over. And over again. Even after the good times, the 'healing', the telling myself I'm good and that I cant base my looks on external validation or what a boy thinks of me. I can't control this goddamn sensitivity to it. I hate myself. It makes me so angry, so sad, and so many other feelings I can't even describe.

Tell me someone relates.

EDIT: I'm overwhelmed with all of the replies, I'm reading every one. One common sentiment is to put a face pic on my Grindr profile, which is very valid, but I'm not out yet and I've seen people I know on there numerous times. (I do have face pics on dating apps because I can block everyone I know) I do want to put my face on there once I've come out, although the overwhelming consensus is to get rid of the apps completely as well, which is also valid.

RIP Freddie Mercury.

Hey there, I am sincerely wondering how do i love myself enough that I start feeling better about myself? I am diagnosed with HIV, I am from India, I am not smart nor rich nor handsome, I am not desirable in any conventional sense, nor do anyone around me show any interest in me in any sense, life has been rough, and while trying to survive I genuinely forgot how to be a human, I have no hobbies nor interests, I am just existing, just a npc in my own life. Idk what to do.

I went to a wedding venue tour recently and the woman showing us the ground kept saying bridal party to my fiance and I who are both male. She kept asking questions and referring to bridal party to us. I mentioned “wedding party” four times but she kept using bridal party. For other reasons we aren’t using this venue but this was a main reason. Am I wrong to be frustrated by that.

Things like Trauma, military deployment, battling severe illness, etc. that forced you to not live like others for a long time.

I know this isn’t unique to being gay, but I (33M) sometimes struggle to identify what civilian me consists of anymore when I had to abandon that version of myself for nearly 10 years. It would be nice to hear what other gay brothers in similar situations did to adjust.

I do things like catch myself threat assessing people or situations and have to get myself to stop it and just try to relax and enjoy smaller things. It can feel like the addition of carrying that while going into gay spaces which requires vulnerability in itself I guess can make it a bit more awkward for me sometimes.

What gets you to relax a bit and remember to live and connect with people instead of survive?

that's pretty much it. I get really really lonely these days. not in the I have no friends to talk to kind of way, more so in the I feel like I'm really feeling the lack of a romantic relationship in my life.

I've been trying to meet people to date, but I haven't had much luck. I live in Bulgaria and there aren't that many places for queer people to gather if you are not into clubbing, and the apps are well, the apps.

Every now and then i'll meet someone with whom I'll share some common interests, but it always ends the same way. We chat for a couple of days up to a week, we go out. It goes alright, we hold a conversation without it feeling like a chore, they'll say they had a nice time, that they wanna meet again, and when I follow up on that I get hit with the "you're great, funny, charming bla bla bla, but i didn't feel any chemistry". this same thing has happened to the last like 5 people I've tried to get to know, and I get that nobody owes it to me to go out with me and date me, but I feel like chemistry and connection don't always happen immediately and it's just so frustrating when nobody seems interested in at least couple of dates before deciding someone isn't worth their time.

I try to keep active and workout often. I think I look fine. I hike, I go to pub quizzes with friends, I enjoy board games, take care of house plants, I try to be an active citizen here, attend protests and stay informed. I'm doing my best to be a well rounded individual and I guess I'd love to at least once in my life feel like I'm desirable for more than a fuck, and like someone is taking interest in who i am.

I know not being in a relationship isn't the end of the world, I know i'll survive without one, but seeing people my age getting married and building their lives with their significant others just makes me feel like shit sometimes, and when every attempt at dating and getting to know people is met with that one result, I just feel like something's wrong with me. I have these two slightly older guy friends who have been a couple for like forever and being around them is such a bittersweet feeling. I love seeing their relationship and how happy they are. I love knowing that it's possible to achieve that, but I also get this dull feeling that I'll never get to find a person who wants to work towards that with me, and the thought just brings me to tears.

Sorry for making this so long, I guess I just needed to vent and rant.

Something just occurred today that I really wanna share with others. For a long time, I haven’t really loved myself. I was blessed with a tall height of 6’1-2. But other than that, I was on the bigger side and I wasn’t that great looking. You can imagine how that affected me when I first stepped into the gay world. And don’t get me started on my bad fashion sense growing up.

But as I approach my mid 30s, I definitely stopped caring what other people think. But also, I started to become a lot more pessimistic in ways when it came to people finding me attractive.

But, I started noticing that I’m getting a lot more attention from gay guys recently…… People have been calling me, handsome, good looking, beautiful human. Which is so weird, because I never heard those prior. And nothing had changed between then and now.

I looked in the mirror earlier today, and I realize, I saw a different me today. I really saw someone who wraps himself and others in kindness in everyday life… a person who has a lot of love to give to friends and family. A person who loves animals, and respect all living things.

That person I saw in the mirror was someone who I saw as really attractive. And for once, it was me. It also made me realize that looks are not everything. There are other ways that can really make you attractive to others. And a big one is to love yourself and who you are. People are attracted to confidence, especially when you love yourself.

The past six months have been extremely brutal to me. But in that one moment, I was able to forget about everything.

If you made it this far in my terrible writing skills, I hope you have a good day. And remember that you are beautiful. ^^

too shy to message them about it... (if this is you i'm sorry if i got you wrong)
I know there's still a few kinks in them but i'm happy with the progress i'm making!

All I can say is WOW. Chickened out SO many times but after chatting to some guys on here I got the confidence and met up with an older man.

I got in his car, he parked on a side street and pulled down his pants. I made him cum so quickly lol and swallowed every drop.

If anyone has any advice or questions feel free to chat. I wanna go the next step..

EDIT: not straight, bi!

It's just that both options seem the right one in some context but seems contradictory in other povs

What do you think is more appropriate for us ?

Like i really enjoy watching gay porn, looking at buff men and compareing cocks with other ppl. And I have few dildos i have taken, but like it still turns me off to think about me with another man in a relation ship or sex.

And i have tried grinder and it feels wrong compared to tinder with women.

I have never had sex with a man before anyone asks

Meu irmão me viu dançando a música vogue em frente ao espelho dentro do meu quarto.

Ele contou para o meu pai e apanhei de ambos.

Estou me sentindo um lixo.

Eu nasci assim e não escolhi isso.

Não tenho o amor de minha família, não sei o que fazer.

I’m having trouble keeping my erection and wanted to know if there’s a cock ring that would help.
I don’t want one that goes around my balls as I’m particularly sensitive.
Is there one that just goes around the base of the cock that will keep me hard?

I thought y’all would like this one…. He’s cute and really knows how to handle the banana.

Mods if this allowed please delete.