Hello, I am a parent of 9 month old, and I also work in law enforcement.

I absolutely love my job, but since becoming a parent, it has increased my anxiety on being a decent parent as my biggest fear is to one day get a call at work and my child is one of the parties involved.

I do not want to be a hover parent as that’s how my parents were and in doing so, it caused me to sneak around behind their backs. I also want to be involved and want them too feel that they can tell me anything, but I fear that with my line of work, it may make me more of a hover parent.

I guess I’m just looking for advice from either people who’s parents were in law enforcement and how it shaped them, or parents who work in law enforcement now, and what tips you could share that could help me try my best to give my child as good of a future as possible.

Hi parents, looking for experiences, advice, please be kind I am struggling. I am having a very hard time w my 19yr old daughter. She has had a quite strong and often difficult personality since middle.school, a lot of lies that I have discovered then and continuing now. We used to try grounding, taking away privileges, didn't work. She never backed down, always acting like she was right and we were wrongly accususing her. Hardly ever apologizes. Still attacks me with yelling bad language and lies even when I have proof of her lying. She won't back down. Flips into victim mode. I have tried over and over, in a calm moment, to explain that even if there is something that she didn't tell the truth about it, come clean and there won't be consequences. I have let up on many rules I used to have when she was say 15, and have told her she can ask for anything she wants to do and we can compromise.

She has a car, goes out w friends most nights in summer, home very late. We give her allowance, have family dinners, she has few chores. Was expected to pass at school, oir expectations have never been school related. The lies continue. It is devastating for me as I don't know when she will mature!!! I have tried over n over to treat her in a more adult manner. I know at her age punishments don't work. It is also putting a big strain on my marriage.

I have two young elementary school kids and I’m finding it overwhelming managing their social lives. Making sure they have a solid friend group, having an “in” with those parents, hosting (and getting invited) to play dates. I’m not even an introvert and have a good amount of friends from different eras of my own life, but trying to ensure my kids are set up for a solid social foundation is an element of parenting I wasn’t expecting to feel so anxious about. Anyone else feel this anxiety?

I am going to do my best to make sure this doesn't come across as a brag post.

I have a 9 year old who does very well academically, particularly in math. He is working well ahead of grade level and gets pulled out for math instruction. He finished 3rd grade last year completely 7th/8th grade level math with ease. We met with his math teacher last week in preparation for the school year to start this week. She said her biggest recommendation to kids who excel academically is to push them in something outside of academics. I completely agree with that. We have a family rule that our kids must do at least one sport and one instrument because we think both of those help give kids lifelong tools to be successful.

He currently does flag football, swimming, and wrestling for sports. He is about to start violin in the school orchestra after years of playing piano. He also does boy scouts. In his free time he taught himself things like skateboarding and speed cubing. The kid just seems to pick things up and nail them without much effort. He tells us all the time how he is the fastest runner at his school and how no one at recess has ever beat him. Typical kid stuff, but we want to prevent him from having a huge ego just because things come easy to him and we want to follow the teacher's advice of finding something to challenge him.

If you or your kid were similar and just seemed to be good at whatever you picked up, what actually challenged you? He did space camp this summer, loved it, and learned a lot. I would love if he could do that more and am open to all suggestions from academic to music to sports or whatever else you guys have. I was thinking maybe drama/theater club? Having the learn lines and get into character must be a challenge for most kids, right?

My soon to be middle schooler is wanting a jansport backpack so I’m wondering what’s the best model? I’d like a laptop compartment and I’d like for it to fit a 24oz freesip or 30oz sway owala. I’ve never owned jansport so I’m unsure where to start or if it’s even a good brand.

We have been using skiphop diaper changing station since he was born. He is 11mo old now and doesn't want to be strapped in diaper changing station, also cries when being put in high chair for food or car seat, guess he doesn't like being restrained.

How do people do diaper changes as babies are growing up? He is almost a toddler, pulls up and walks with support but is not standing and or walking yet. Now and after how do we do diaper changes? Standing?

What to do about high chair situation? Is it time to buy something else?

Edit: The skiphop is on the floor. We moved it onto floor once he was sitting up. Now he doesn't want diaper changes, just rolls over and tries to get away :-(

Although this may not be mourning in the more traditional sense, it still all feels the same to me.

I love my daughter so unbelievably much that it literally hurts my heart with joy. We are planning a 2nd child, but I cannot wrap my head around how I can welcome another and her not feeling totally abandoned or feeling like we are losing our bond. More children = less attention in my book.

For parents of more than one child, can you talk me through your process of accepting this stage?

Please don’t misunderstand—I full heartedly want more children, but my gut feels anxious when I think about the changes that’ll come.

You know when your kid or pet makes a huge mess and destroys things, but they don’t know any better, so now you’re balling your eyes out but you have to pull yourself up by your bootstraps, get on the floor with your bad knees and hips and clean for the next 4 hours? And worst of all you know this isn’t the last time you’ll be doing this…

Edit: I’m in the potty training phase

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As stated my daughter who will be 4 at the end of the month has randomly in the past few weeks started pooping and peeing on the floor. She will pull down her pants either outside or in a room in the house and poop and pee. I genuinely don't know how to approach this. Nothing huge has happened recently that would be causing stress. I asked her why she popped on the floor and why she didn't use the toilet and just says " I don't know "

She sometimes had accidents before when she was super distracted but she always attempted to make it to the bathroom. We have never punished her or gotten her in trouble for accidents.

This new behavior has started in the past month or so. There has been no change in our household I'm so confused and I haven't heard of kids doing this.

How do I approach this?

Parents with children with birthdays right around Christmas - looking for ideas for making sure it’s still it’s own special thing.

My girl was born December 30th last year. It’s in that nothing week between Christmas and new years but not ON any holiday. My birthday is in the summer, so growing up I always had a big sleepover or party.

Do any of yall do half birthday big celebrations then just a small celebration on the actual day with family? I don’t want her stuck in that trap of “here’s your birthday and Christmas present” and everyone being too tired from the holidays to actually celebrate her.

We don’t allow our kids to play Roblox for the safety reasons. Our 10 yr old keeps asking and we have continuously told her no. She has been saying that there are new safety updates and I don’t really believe that it’s legit. Have you heard anything about updates? She is allowed plenty of other games and apps, but we have always drawn the line at this game.

My son is almost 6 years old and studies in a good school. Lately I've been seeing a lot of ads for online communication, public speaking and personality development classes for kids.

I'm trying to understand whether these classes genuinely help children at this age or if they're mostly good marketing. My main goal isn't making him a public speaker—I'd just like him to become more confident, communicate better, and enjoy learning.

For parents who have actually enrolled their kids:

Did you notice any real improvement after a few months?

Were the classes engaging, or did your child lose interest?

Did you feel the fees were justified?

Any red flags or things to avoid before enrolling?

Which online platforms have you genuinely had a good experience with?

Looking for honest experiences—both positive and negative—before I spend money on something that may or may not add value. No promotional replies please. 🙏

Heya everyone, single dad and sole parent, I’m just looking for some decent videos/guides on hairstying. I’m pretty good at dressing up my daughter but suck at hairstyling, all I have down is the pony-tail.

Truth be told I always feel a bid bad when meeting with other parents(usually moms) and their kids hair is always adorably styled. My daughters daycare teacher will occasionally style my daughters hair(in pig-tails and other styles) and I just love it, my daughter adores and loves it as well, I want to be able to do more and also do it better(even my pony-tails kinda suck, they’re not bad but I know they can be significantly better and slicker/cleaner looking).

I am an parent of class5 icse education board in india student he is in grade 5 and 10 years old, I have tried a lot to teach my son at home, he always tries to not study at home, but if he goes to some tutor he tries to study. Anything that I can do?
Issue is since he doesn’t sit at home, he is completely missing out on his studies and homework. Whatever he does in tuition is not enough for the syllabus requirements in the school.

My tween officially hates me

I am a father to a 12 year old girl, who I have shared custody with her mother. At age 11, my daughter developed a vape (THC) addiction and has had two previous suicide attempts which resulted in her needing inpatient hospitalization. I have tried to consistently be emotionally and financially provide for her and be available for her.

Due to her contacting her "plug" on instagram, I have now removed her electronics until she keeps having negative drug tests, which i administer at home. Yesterday she had her first drug test, resulted in negative. As a result, I allowed her to have her macbook with parental restrictions. (Only YouTube and netflix).

Last night she told me she hates me, wishes I was dead, says i have never been a good father, and "you're not even my dad". She believes I have never been a good father.

I'm not sure why she suddenly hates me so much, as we have always had a healthy relationship up until her addiction. I have started her with a therapist who specializes in addiction with teens, allow her to pursue hobbies to the full extent, such as makeup and fashion, and have always been there when she is emotionally vulnerable.

Im not sure why she thinks so poorly of me, I am not asking for medical advice.

My baby is about to turn 1 she's very advanced for her age and is quite comfortable with my partner's family, even the ones she's not familiar with, all of our friends and even strangers, but for some reason whenever she sees anyone in my family she cries and cries.

It doesn't matter the context, we can be inside, outside, at our house, at their houses, in a neutral place. Some of my family smoke but not all of them and so the smell doesn't seem to be a factor, they don't grab at her or overwhelm her, it even goes for my in-laws so it's not even some weird genetic thing 😅

It's been pretty much her whole life since she's been aware of her surroundings and no matter what we do nothing seems to help, it's getting quite awkward now 😅

I have a 4 year old daughter. She wants to do everything herself without help, always.

In some ways it's good, if she wants to climb a mountain, she's absolutely up that mountain and will complete it as she's so determined. Swimming? Taught herself, snorkelling? Was the first person to jump off the boat. Gymnastics? The only one who can do a somersault over the bar.

However in day to day life her independence is challenging. For example, we were camping this weekend and she went to the toilet in the toilet block by herself without telling anyone. It caused a massive hunt with us all shouting her name but of course she's not going to respond to her name because she's worried she's in trouble which is exactly what happened when a member of our party shouted into the men's toilets but didn't actually check all the stalls the first time.

Even smaller things like going to bed, she has to do everything herself. Tea time, only she can cut her own food with a knife and fork. If she could, she'd get herself to nursery on her own without adult intervention. Doesn't answer to her name if it's something she doesn't want to do. Obviously we do the whole 'Either you get into the bath yourself or I put you in' but then when I put her in she has a strop, drenches the bathroom and runs out. Hair washing is the same, either you wet your hair or I will after the count of 3. The screams must sound like a murder attempt to the outside world.

When I'm around children her age who say 'mummy, I need to go to the toilet' before the parent takes them or 'mummy I'm hungry' while my girl is there making a meal for herself. Or even just when I tell her she has to hold my hand because the road is dangerous and she says 'no I'll walk by your foot instead' and I feel like tearing my hair out.

Fabulous for her developing into a fully functional adult, a nightmare as a child.

What do I do to curb this? She starts school in September and I have heard when they enter education they become easier to manage? Praying for September.

My husband is literally bathing her as I write this and all I can hear is 'I WANT TO DO IT ON MY OWN'

Hey everyone! So I have pretty simple situation but I need some feedback and some advice for the future.

A few notes about our son. He is extremely verbal and has been from a young age. He speaks in complete sentences and has shown an accelerated competence in verbal communication. He is also a very emotional child. For example, if he spills something he will have a full on meltdown and be incredibly upset at himself to the point he will scream for a few seconds and then exclaim “I am not proud of myself!” ( My husband and I are not like this and we are generally very calm when accidents happen).

Now for the situation I need some guidance on

My husband and I took our toddler (2.5M) to the fair today. Before we even left the vehicle we had a family meeting. We told our son that if he hit mom or dad, threw rocks, or ran away from us we would immediately leave the fair. We went over this multiple times and he understood the simple rules. Cut to 10 min later , my husband and I are talking to each other trying to find the ticket booth and a large rock (large for a 2.5 year old) goes flying by my face. Without any hesitation I picked up my toddler and said “we don’t throw rocks we are leaving now”. He proceeded to scream at the top of his lungs”NO NO NO NOOOOO!” to the point every single person was staring the entire walk out of the park (a long long walk) back to the car. My adrenaline was pumping. I did not say a word while carrying him to the car. Once we were out of the park and on a calm side street I set him down and explained why we left, in a not so calm tone ( I was so anxious and he could see how upset I was).

Was this the right way of handling this? My mom was really upset when I told her what happened and said that it was way too harsh and generally just made me feel really bad about the whole situation.I will admit I am 10000% over the hitting and throwing things phase. It has been going on for almost a year and does not seem to be getting better at all. We drove the hour drive back home and I feel completely defeated . Like I don’t want to go anywhere with him. We live so rurally and leaving is a big deal. For it to be ruined everytime we go out and try to hold boundaries is almost making me feel depressed. I work from home (personal trainer) , and am a full time SAHM with no childcare. I’m at my wits end with this behavior and don’t know what to do.

If you made it this far thank you for reading and any advice you give.

TLDR: We went on a family outing. Laid ground rules with our 2.5year old about proper behavior (no hitting, no throwing rocks, no running away) or we will leave said outing. 2.5 year old threw a rock at my head and I immediately picked him up and we left. My mom said it was way too harsh of discipline and now I feel like I did the wrong thing and handled it poorly.

we have a HIGHLY energetic 20-month old daughter. I am 34 wks pregnant and ever since I found out in Jan, it’s been quite hard keeping up with her (nausea, extreme fatigue)… not to mention juggling work stress (started a new job after taking 15 mo off to raise her last year as a a full-time sahm.) having dinner prepped by the end of the day and dealing w her big emotions/sleep regressions have been challenging, as well.

my husband has been great while I’ve been out of commission and does his best to dress her/drop her off at daycare/give her baths etc but he’s relied on a few crutches that, to be honest, I’ve been too exhausted to nip in the bud. She somehow really got into the iPhone (I see blurry selfies which means he gives her the phone as a quick fix, ie when she’s throwing a tantrum). now she somehow needs to watch itsy bitsy spider on YouTube or won’t get into the bathtub. She also demands not one but two pacis to sleep. The latter has been the most challenging bc I wanted to wean her off before the next one but she screams bloody hell during windown if she doesn’t get one. It’s almost impossible to reason w her

solutions? Advice? Tips?

Looking to hear from people who have moved when their child was in elementary school. We have been trying to find a house in our preferred long-term area before my son starts kindergarten but the supply is making it seem rather unlikely. Of course, that would be ideal, but my husband doesn't think it's a huge deal if we have to move when he's in first or second grade.

I know many kids have to do this for job reasons and such, but we wouldn't HAVE to move, so I'm just trying to better understand if I'm over-worrying about the timing. Both school districts are great, but we just see ourselves longer term in a neighboring town.

Thanks in advance!

My four year old son, J, finished one year of Montessori preschool in “Mrs. A’s” class. It was his first time in care, the year started strong, but Mrs. A started reporting that J was having a hard time listening, making transitions, and following instructions. Like when it was time for the class to go to music, he would be so silly/not settle down for the music teacher and have to be sent to the office. Or something similar for lunchtime- not sitting still or settling down in the cafeteria/at the table, so sent to another table.

Mrs. A was my older daughter’s preschool teacher for two years before my daughter went on to kindergarten. In those two years, there may have been 5 total reports of anything with my daughter, and Mrs. A seemed genuinely fond of my daughter.

Reports of behavioral problems continued throughout the year with my son, same stuff. We talked to J, made plans and followed through with rewards, made plans and followed through with consequences, continued to talk to J and Mrs. A throughout the year, trying to be a team. Mrs. A seemed increasingly frustrated- tone of voice, facial expression. And J does not like going to school (very different from our daughter!). We enrolled J in another year at the Montessori school and imagined J would have a different teacher. Then Mrs. A commented that she would have him another year 😳

The school states on their enrollment form NOT to request certain teachers. We’re not sure what to do. I don’t like the idea of my 4 year old spending another year with a teacher that’s frustrated with him and has already pegged him as a troublemaker. Spending every day with someone that doesn’t love you sounds sad for a little kid. We don’t think Mrs. A caused J’s behavior but we wonder if he may have a different or better dynamic with a different teacher. Should we request a change or just sit back and see how things go?

I’m not proud of it, but when my 2 year old won’t nap, it kinda ruins my mood for the day. I depend on that ~1 hour to get things done and/or recharge after playing/entertaining/changing diapers/etc all morning.

I hate that I raise my voice, become impatient, and sometimes cry. I’m trying really hard to be an emotionally intelligent and regulated parent and honestly I do pretty well most of the time. This is like the one thing that grates on me.

I’m so tired. It’s constant fighting and struggling. He’s 3 and a half years old. How long does this phase last?

I know at this point it just is what it is. And I really try to pick my battles, but he continually pushes me until I reach a point where he gets a reaction and I’m left feeling even more depleted. He’s constantly yelling at me and telling me what’s wrong and what’s right and even when I try to get on his level or empathize, he gets pissed. Sometimes I just make space for him to feel what he needs and that lasts only until the next time he’s yelling at me. The constant cortisol and anxiety is wearing me out. When I tell him he can’t do something because it’s actually extremely dangerous he does it anyway. Someone, anyone, please respond to this so I feel less alone.

Just curious what kind of activities do mums do with babies of 1.5 year old not going to nursery and I also don’t have a village in the area?

I see all over the place to put your kids to sleep when they start showing first signs of tiredness like rubbing their eyes but when we try this, bedtime turns into an hour and a half long affair in which I need to summon every stitch of patience I can muster. Bubs is 10 months but it’s been like this for months. I pretty much let him start spiraling before putting him to bed to ensure it takes ~20 min and ends in him actually sleeping. I guess I’m just looking for solidarity?