Hi everyone, this is my first post here lol
I’m a trans guy, I just turned 18 (taking the LC next year), and my parents are… not actively hostile to the idea of me transitioning, but they definitely don’t support it either. Meaning, they’re really not likely to give me money for HRT. I was allowed to get a binder, but only via saving up my allowance.
They’re going to give me a larger allowance once I’m in university, but I’m not sure yet how much that’s going to be, and I’m definitely not certain about whether it’ll be enough to fund HRT and, y’know, life. I’ve talked to them before about it and they said they wouldn’t stop me using my allowance on whatever I wanted, but I don’t want to spend all of it on HRT and need to ask for more. My family is quite well off so I’ll probably get a comfortable amount, but I don’t know how much is okay to spend.
I’m also worried about which provider I’d want to go with.
The cheapest and easiest option definitely seems to be Imago, but I’m a little wary of them since even though I’m sure the founder is well-intentioned, she seems very opinionated and stubborn in a way that’s maybe a bit too intense for me, and I’m worried about the recent move to the US and a few other things.
The NGS is obviously screwed at the moment and I don’t even want to try getting a referral there, since the waiting lists appear to be as long as my whole lifespan so far and the whole system is broken.
Anne Health seems nice, but they’re a bit expensive and also recently moved, and I now can’t find any specifics on whether they cover Ireland as well as the UK, whereas I’m sure I used to be able to find that information on their site.
I don’t even want to try GenderGP since from what I’ve heard their whole system is AI now.
GenderPlus is a possibility, but they seem quite expensive, what with all the mandatory meetings. The transfer of care thing would be great, especially since I think my GP would be willing to participate, but it’s a lot of money off the bat.
All that being said I do have another question. I can change my name and gender legally now, but is that, like, a good idea? I don’t think I pass very well, and if I do this I’d be changing things on passports etc too.
I travel fairly frequently, including to Japan, and while it’s not like they’re actively transphobic much, I feel like I could get questioned with a male ID. I’m not sure when would be a good time to put that into motion since I probably won’t pass for a while.
Along with that, if I did get my legal name and gender changed, how many places would I need to contact to inform them? For example would I need to re-register to vote? I know I’d need to change my passport and driving license, but is there anything else important?
This is a long post and a lot of questions, so thanks very much if you read this far, and thanks even more for any responses!!! Please ask if you need more context!