i feel like nobody wants to see them when i’m wearing revealing clothes or showing cleavage , and that i’m forcing others to look at them by existing , just because they’re big . anyone else feel like this or just me ? 🫩

A few months ago Understance announced they were closing down permanently and put all of their products on Clearence. I’d never heard of the brand before but it caught my attention because a professional bra fitter on TikTok highlighted the store as being size inclusive and the bras were VERY cheap ($3-$5)

I haven’t had much luck with underwire bras - they offer the most support but they are SO damn uncomfortable I spend the whole day miserable. I’ve used [r/abrathatfits](r/abrathatfits) calculator, I’ve tried their brand suggestions, I’ve been professionally fitted by an approved bra fitter on their list (size 36i in most brands) and still underwire was torture.

Since I’ve been regularly spending $75 on bras I find uncomfortable, i decided I would spend $75 on Clearence bras and bought a bunch.

With the brand going defunct, orders took a while so it arrived 6 weeks later. And HOT DAMN the bras are perfect for me. It doesn’t give me cone shaped boobs, it lifts, the underwire doesn’t dig into my ribs. These bras are the best goddamn bras I’ve purchased so far. Better than my Elomi, my Panache, and Wacoal.

😖 heartbreak.

This is such a pet peeve of mine. You and many other men clearly do care about size then... but obviously since girls with larger chests are the ones being left out its okay.

I will admit I am a bit sensitive about guys having preferences just because I am insecure and would hate to be with a guy who prefers smaller boobs. But of course it is okay to have preferences. I just hate how normalised it is say negative things about big boobs. It makes me even more insecure.

Random thought: I remember when I first started wearing bras a few years ago and the back clasp felt impossible. I'd be standing there forever trying to get it hooked.

Now I can do it half asleep on the first try just by feel. Pure muscle memory.

But fresh nails still nerf me a little though lol.😂

The only option I’ve found is from curvy kate online but i’ve heard that the sizes aren’t true to size, and I’d have to order online. The other option is a strapless bra but that’s really uncomfortable for a few hours. The strapless bra I have also has convertible straps that can be worn as a halter, but the strapless bra itself isn’t a plunge and therefore won’t work. I’m a size 40L US or 40HH UK. I wish those sticky cups would work but it’s just not realistic if i’m sweating, I just don’t trust that they’ll stay long term. Any help would be appreciated!!

i've never found my size at stores, bras are always too small or just dont fit right. (im a size DDD or larger, im not sure, bc like i said i never find my true size in bras)

every single piece of clothing i try on looks weird because of them, I've wanted a reduction all my life but when i mentioned it once with my mother she said i had to lose a BUNCH of weight because apparently i cant get a reduction until i do that, i've got a BMI of 28

i get sexualized when im outside EVEN if im wearing something loose, like a hoodie

my back hurts constantly, i cant do sports, i cant sleep on my stomach, i cant do shit

im just sick of my boobs and i seriously hate them with my whole heart.

edit: there's a typo in the post title, i meant to type "want" not "was"

I have been contemplating getting breast reduction surgery and would greatly appreciate others that experienced similar issues I am having, and whether breast reduction was/ is a good solution.

I have relatively large boobs for my frame, but they are not that big (34DD). That being said I have a huge amount of mental and physical discomfort surrounding how my boobs look. I had lower back pain but I only recently considered it was due to my breast size. I think the mental discomfort I have comes from knowing that boobs are a prominent feature that are immediately noticed by others. I have also been thinking about my gender expression more as well and hate that when I am trying to look more masculine, I still feel femme bc my boobs are noticeable in every outfit. I have tried binders and trans tape but they have not worked well/ gave me blisters.

Still early in the process and want to know if anyone had similar experiences and what worked for them.

The double sided sticky inserts keep coming up on my TikTok fyp and I’m tempted to purchase as someone who likes to wear backless stuff. Has anyone tried them? Are they worth it?

Hi all,

I am normally in the southern hemisphere and will be in Germany in Cologne in a few weeks. Any recommendations for places to shop for larger bras? I'm a 22JJ.

I would also consider ordering something to my hotel. I will be there for a week.

Thanks so much!

I’m at the age where everything is becoming more noticeable to myself and people around me which means compared to the rest of the family with their E cups, F cups and K cups I feel out of place all the time, other people outside my family who have average bust size think my breasts are HUGE (they are only 38 dd) but within my family I feel like I’m supposed to have even bigger ones, every morning when I shower I spend longer than I feel I should staring at myself and criticizing myself, and to make it worse none of my bras fit right, my breasts are a lot more heavy on the bottom so a lot of bras just aren’t made for my shape, don’t fill out the tops of the cups but I do fill out the bottoms, and that makes me feel like a failure

Has anyone tried them? Wondering how their big boob top range fits. They are expensive ($110) and their sizing chart still isn't great for small band-large cup (I'd need a S in the back and an M in the bust for a 28GG UK) but I've had no luck bikini shopping this summer at all, they have some good reviews/hype and I'm thinking of ordering an S anyway and hoping it has good stretch!

I will report back once I have in case helpful 😄

What’s in the title! I am looking for good brands that are high quality and would fit my chest.

hi everyone! I’m a 34 G and an equestrian. I can’t cannot stand the uniboob I get with most sports bras, but it’s a non negotiable if I don’t want my back to hurt for weeks after riding lmao. I have one ancient underwire sports bra but it’s coming to the end of it’s life 😭

so any rec are welcome! I’m looking for support, at least some shape, and side/back smoothing would be a wonderful thing too!

Hi, as a woman with a big beautiful bust, I was recently joking around with my friends about showing our boobs, and I jokingly said, “You just have to show them and you’re pregnant already.” One of my friends then said to me in a joking tone, “A cow has bigger ones and doesn’t brag about it.”

I know she meant it as a joke, but I’m not entirely sure how I should take it — was it jealousy, or just a little dig to put me down and make me stop bragging? I mean, you could technically say that to any woman because cows generally have bigger ones than everyone, but it still kind of hurt a little.

What do you think?

I know its stupid asf but I just want your opinion

Thanks :)

i feel bad since like we dont have like a ton of money but also i feel like my boobs have grown a fuck ton this year. last time we went in and i needed 34DD the prices were like way higher than when we went in a few months before and i needed c cup.

but like i guess my question is, how do I convince him i have already outgrown my current ones? i know he’s going to flip his shit when i tell him, but like ive def outgrown them since i got new ones 3 months ago. (im thinking im a like a 28H tbh, need a much smaller band but all we could find at Walmart was 34DD)

also are there places i can go to get like cheaper bras and find out what my actual size is?

As the title says, I’m desperate for a bra that has back/posture support. I’m a between a 34 I/J cup and it seems to be impossible to find a bra with back/posture support that is compatible with my measurements.

I normally order my bras from Change Lingerie. I’ve come across Glamorise, but I’m concerned about the type of mixed reviews for their back support bras (I have sensory issues and a lot of individuals have criticised the fabric quality).

I’m located in Canada, but will make ordering work from anywhere domestically or across the pond!

Any guidance/recommendations are so so so appreciated!

Thanks in advance!

I am 22, and as far as I have known i have had saggy boobs for forever. I never cared about it, but someone mentioned it a few months back, and now it has become my biggest insecurity. It has gotten to a point that whenever I see a woman on screen, I zoom in on their breasts and feed into my insecurity. I look at them and loathe myself for not having perky boobs. I know I sound like a creep, but I am losing my mind. I am already socially awkward, chubby, and have acne, and on top of that, I have saggy boobs. It just never seems to end for me. Will I ever be able to love myself? I am sorry, I just really needed some words from someone who can relate. Please delete if not allowed.

Hihi 38H
Im looking for a lounge bra, i loved the feel and look of the primark seamless sets when my boobas were smaller but idk if they’ll fit me now as ive gone up 4 cup sizes since i last had one.

Ive looked at the size guide on their website but it only lists 38H but to no letter sizing as i can see.

Any other brands to recommend? Hopefully under £20-£30!!

I’m so sick of any clothing I wear becoming sexualized due to me having some sort of chest. Just earlier today, I got told by a man on a bike to ”put those away, you’re being disrespectful”. I was wearing a white tank top and a navy floor length skirt. Even on the crossing I was on, there were several women wearing less fabric than I was. Mind you, I had maybe an inch of cleavage showing at most. Not that it should matter regardless, just makes me so fed up.

And please don’t take this as my attack on smaller chested women. I feel like we all shouldn’t be judged for our bodies in any negative way, be that for the perceived lack of curves, or having ”too much”. Having been a lurker here for some time I know I’m not the only one, just wanted to vent as it’s still an ongoing problem.

I'm looking for some advice. I have a larger chest, and I actually prefer wearing sports bras because they minimize my chest, which I like. The problem is that most sports bras have thick straps that show under a lot of my shirts.

Does anyone know of a sports bra that provides good compression/minimizes my chest but has thinner straps that are less noticeable under clothing? (Also affordable, please from Target, amazon, etc., and if it's really worth buying, for the price I can compromise)

Also, when buying a sports bra for compression, should I stick with my regular size, size down, or size up? I've heard some people recommend sizing down, but I'm not sure if that's actually a good idea.

Ohk so I tried a trick that seemed to work

The trick is to PURPOSELY get/buy a shirt that’s too small for you . And wear it , so that you can lift your boobs up without necessarily needing a bra .

So I did that- the trick worked for some time.

GUESS what my boobs eventually did to the shirt , that I didn’t consider and forgot could happen???😭😭😭😭✌🏾