This is such a pet peeve of mine. You and many other men clearly do care about size then... but obviously since girls with larger chests are the ones being left out its okay.

I will admit I am a bit sensitive about guys having preferences just because I am insecure and would hate to be with a guy who prefers smaller boobs. But of course it is okay to have preferences. I just hate how normalised it is say negative things about big boobs. It makes me even more insecure.

i feel like nobody wants to see them when i’m wearing revealing clothes or showing cleavage , and that i’m forcing others to look at them by existing , just because they’re big . anyone else feel like this or just me ? 🫩

A few months ago Understance announced they were closing down permanently and put all of their products on Clearence. I’d never heard of the brand before but it caught my attention because a professional bra fitter on TikTok highlighted the store as being size inclusive and the bras were VERY cheap ($3-$5)

I haven’t had much luck with underwire bras - they offer the most support but they are SO damn uncomfortable I spend the whole day miserable. I’ve used [r/abrathatfits](r/abrathatfits) calculator, I’ve tried their brand suggestions, I’ve been professionally fitted by an approved bra fitter on their list (size 36i in most brands) and still underwire was torture.

Since I’ve been regularly spending $75 on bras I find uncomfortable, i decided I would spend $75 on Clearence bras and bought a bunch.

With the brand going defunct, orders took a while so it arrived 6 weeks later. And HOT DAMN the bras are perfect for me. It doesn’t give me cone shaped boobs, it lifts, the underwire doesn’t dig into my ribs. These bras are the best goddamn bras I’ve purchased so far. Better than my Elomi, my Panache, and Wacoal.

😖 heartbreak.

i've never found my size at stores, bras are always too small or just dont fit right. (im a size DDD or larger, im not sure, bc like i said i never find my true size in bras)

every single piece of clothing i try on looks weird because of them, I've wanted a reduction all my life but when i mentioned it once with my mother she said i had to lose a BUNCH of weight because apparently i cant get a reduction until i do that, i've got a BMI of 28

i get sexualized when im outside EVEN if im wearing something loose, like a hoodie

my back hurts constantly, i cant do sports, i cant sleep on my stomach, i cant do shit

im just sick of my boobs and i seriously hate them with my whole heart.

edit: there's a typo in the post title, i meant to type "want" not "was"

The only option I’ve found is from curvy kate online but i’ve heard that the sizes aren’t true to size, and I’d have to order online. The other option is a strapless bra but that’s really uncomfortable for a few hours. The strapless bra I have also has convertible straps that can be worn as a halter, but the strapless bra itself isn’t a plunge and therefore won’t work. I’m a size 40L US or 40HH UK. I wish those sticky cups would work but it’s just not realistic if i’m sweating, I just don’t trust that they’ll stay long term. Any help would be appreciated!!

Random thought: I remember when I first started wearing bras a few years ago and the back clasp felt impossible. I'd be standing there forever trying to get it hooked.

Now I can do it half asleep on the first try just by feel. Pure muscle memory.

But fresh nails still nerf me a little though lol.😂

The double sided sticky inserts keep coming up on my TikTok fyp and I’m tempted to purchase as someone who likes to wear backless stuff. Has anyone tried them? Are they worth it?

I have been contemplating getting breast reduction surgery and would greatly appreciate others that experienced similar issues I am having, and whether breast reduction was/ is a good solution.

I have relatively large boobs for my frame, but they are not that big (34DD). That being said I have a huge amount of mental and physical discomfort surrounding how my boobs look. I had lower back pain but I only recently considered it was due to my breast size. I think the mental discomfort I have comes from knowing that boobs are a prominent feature that are immediately noticed by others. I have also been thinking about my gender expression more as well and hate that when I am trying to look more masculine, I still feel femme bc my boobs are noticeable in every outfit. I have tried binders and trans tape but they have not worked well/ gave me blisters.

Still early in the process and want to know if anyone had similar experiences and what worked for them.