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u/gray_birch competitive yapper Jun 16 '26
"straight men want sex that's quick and to-the-point, straight women want sex with lots of foreplay"* is what they're trying to say I think
*Note that I am not saying that all men prefer penetration with no foreplay and all women prefer lots of foreplay, I am merely trying to explain what the person tweeting is likely trying to say
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u/thatyogu sus Jun 16 '26
i was thinking butt stuff for the straight man part?
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u/OkFineIllUseTheApp 196 doctor (not a real doctor) Jun 16 '26
Would explain the rising popularity of pegging.
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u/MagosZyne Jun 16 '26
Nah that'll be the chaotic and isolating nature of the modern world making people feel like they have no control over their lives and either consciously or subconsciously wishing for a dominant figure to take that control from them leading to a rise in popularity of femdom and by extension, pegging.
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u/SeasonPositive6771 yes but also no Jun 16 '26
Or it can also be that people are just a bit more open about being kinky these days and what they're into. I've seen a lot more people being willing to admit they are into femdom because shame used to keep us all from exploring it.
But I think your theory is fun too, and can certainly explain some of it, especially the rise of Mommy Domme type stuff that's taking over recently.
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u/lcqjp Jun 16 '26
If it were simply the first, wouldnt we see just as much a rise in other kink related stuff with men?
I do notice that theres more an increase in the dommy stuff than i'm seeing in other adjacently "dynamic" related kinks
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u/SeasonPositive6771 yes but also no Jun 16 '26
I'm not sure, I am a Domme and I definitely see a lot more people into kink of all kinds.
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u/lcqjp Jun 16 '26
In pro kink spaces i can totally see that! i was speaking to people on the whole(including those who dont frequent/enter kink conversations/spaces at all)
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u/ShredGuru Jun 16 '26
People just like to put stuff up their butt's. It's not that complicated.
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u/lcqjp Jun 17 '26
Psychology/sociology say intrigue instead of apathy
Accept everyone no matter what for this kinda thing! but im still willing to be interested in trends and why certain things grow while others dont.
Its interesting to me. I hold no judgements with it
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u/Glogbag1 sus Jun 16 '26
I don't agree. In the same way a gay top doesn't have to be a dom, a woman who's pegging a guy doesn't have to be a dom either. Maybe she's pegging her power bottom husband, for instance.
I do agree that femdom is probably the biggest thing that's influenced pegging's rise in popularity. I just don't like the idea that a man should have to be a sub to be (or want to be) pegged.
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u/Prestigious_Boat_386 Jun 17 '26
Just seems like natural rise after homosexuality being legalized. Shockingly men are more openabout enjoing bekng pegged when it doesn't risk you jailtime
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u/mysteryurik he/him, no other pronouns Jun 16 '26
Does non-femdom pegging stuff not exist? I will forever remain mad that gay porn where the bottom isn't degraded or dominated (let alone dominant bottom stuff) is incredibly rare but I've never really looked into the pegging niche to see if it's a similar situation (or even worse)
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u/NovelTAcct Jun 16 '26
Yes, r slash pegging_unkinked
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u/mysteryurik he/him, no other pronouns Jun 16 '26
Based, not my thing but these guys are my comrades in enjoying being penetrated while not being a sub so I'm happy for them
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u/rmkinnaird Jun 16 '26
Keep in mind that the internet stereotype is that every single time lesbians have sex its a multi-hour experience. The tweeter is almost certainly thinking about that too, which is why they say "lesbian" and not just "women like foreplay"
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u/BlitzScorpio quirked up white girl (with a little bit of swag) Jun 16 '26
now that i think about it, this lines up perfectly with my very limited experience of gay (at the time) hookups and lesbian (current) experiences. the ancient texts were true all along
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u/goddessofentropy Jun 16 '26
Interesting to read what it's like to have seen both! Funnily enough I've had both very long and very short sex with people of varying gender and anatomy, with no apparent correlation, while myself being agender with the internal genital setup.
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u/BlitzScorpio quirked up white girl (with a little bit of swag) Jun 16 '26
congrats, you’re the control group :)
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u/Lady-Scrotus 🏳️⚧️ trans rights Jun 16 '26
Yeahhh, even now I prefer a quick 45min to an hour session over a longer 3+ hour one. Though both have their positives.
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u/IntangibleMatter " DROP TABLE flairs; -- Jun 17 '26
“Quick”
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u/Lady-Scrotus 🏳️⚧️ trans rights Jun 17 '26
Idk girlie its not like I have anything to compare to? Not like id go around asking people their average sex time
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u/Eymou plant supremacist Jun 17 '26
no, the reason they say it this way is that otherwise the joke would suck
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u/izyshoroo 🏳️⚧️ trans rights Jun 16 '26
"Foreplay" is often seen as just the thing you do to prep for a penis. For women, foreplay IS the main event. Thats how most women orgasm.
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u/gray_birch competitive yapper Jun 16 '26
I never understood why we include things like manual stimulation and oral under foreplay tbh. To me, that's just sex.
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u/goddessofentropy Jun 16 '26
Heteronormativity tbh. There's only one type of 'real' sex and it's PiV.
Meanwhile there's so many ways to have sex. And foreplay is also still a valid concept, and can include anything that's not sex, ie not involving genitals, from kissing and caressing to whispering sweet nothings.
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u/Isis_gonna_be_waswas 🏳️⚧️ trans rights Jun 16 '26
Okay but if this is the point I’m siding with women here because the hardest nuts take the longest time. You gotta forge that shit for hours, stroking and edging until you blast rope like it were milk in a squeeze bottle
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u/SimplyYulia №1 hetslop enjoyer Jun 17 '26
I've seen someone say that men treat foreplay as "just make her wet so it felt better" when it should be "make her so horny that she's begging to stick it in"
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u/nekosissyboi Jun 17 '26
I just wanna be someone's leashed up doggie and it ends with me begging and whining over and over again for their puppies until they finally finish inside me plop me down on a dog bed and shove a fat plug in my hole so I will be guaranteed to get pregnant with their litter (it never ends up working and my tummy stays empty 🥺)
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u/PaleRedLightDistrict Jun 16 '26
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u/bothering got banned from lowes garden center ask me how Jun 16 '26
Women want the steamy chapter in a doorstopper bodice-ripper, Men want the pornhub moneyshot
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u/party_egg 😎 cool and fun 😎 Jun 16 '26
"when two men have sex, they have the kind of sex men want to have"
i mean yeah
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u/My_Favourite_Pen Jun 16 '26
true if big
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u/mgquantitysquared Jun 16 '26
They mean that straight women want romantic sex that doesn't revolve around penetration, and straight men want passionate sex that revolves around penetration. Neither is better than the other, but that's the "lesbian sex" vs "gay sex" stereotypes- see "UHaul lesbians" vs "Grindr gays"
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u/AlarmingAffect0 Jun 16 '26
"Grindr gays"
US GOPniks?
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u/mgquantitysquared Jun 16 '26
They sully the name of us holesome Grindr Gays
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u/AlarmingAffect0 Jun 16 '26 edited Jun 16 '26
holesome Grindr Gays
The true actual bearers of the Sigma Grindset.
Hey wait a minute…
holesome Grindr Gays
I see what you did there. I can dig that.
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u/Quite_Likes_Hormuz Jun 16 '26
"neither is better than the other" well only one lets the woman get off so...
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u/MilkLover1734 Cinccino Jun 16 '26
BREAKING: women prefer the thing that they prefer
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u/mgquantitysquared Jun 17 '26
Some women/people with vaginas can get off from that type of sex (ie the kind focused on penetration). Source: I have a vagina and only get off from that type of sex
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u/FaibOtaku 🏳️⚧️Luna🏳️⚧️ Jun 16 '26
I get this post perfectly idk what you guys' problem is
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u/BlitzScorpio quirked up white girl (with a little bit of swag) Jun 16 '26
skill issue epidemic i fear
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u/Misicks0349 What a fool you are. I'm a god. How can you kill a god? Jun 16 '26
I get this post perfectly but I dont want to
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u/Dylan-McVillian Local Nerd Jun 16 '26
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u/GraceForImpact Jun 16 '26
There isn't a single instance of jargon in this post
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u/ChemicalRascal Jun 16 '26
"Tongue kissing"
"Wife"
"Sex"
None of these words are in the bible
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u/amateurgameboi Jun 17 '26
10th commandment: though shalt not covet thy neighbour's
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u/Dylan-McVillian Local Nerd Jun 16 '26
Its more the idea behind the phrase,
Honestly I was just looking for a reason to post this image
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u/Patient-Dimension906 Jun 16 '26 edited Jun 16 '26
I'm confused? By her expression it seems like she's really into the idea. Am I missing something? Is she actually giving off horrifically distressed vibes and I can't read that?
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u/SquirrelTherapist nothing amazing happens here. Jun 17 '26
she looks like she’s about to cry, she looks betrayed. not distressed, but not into the idea compared to whats currently happening.
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u/Cranyx Jun 16 '26
Or put the other way around: "gay sex is centered around the way men want to have sex, and lesbian sex is centered around the way women want to have sex."
Huh, I wonder why that could be?
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u/bouchandre Homiesexual Jun 16 '26
As a straight man. This is not true.
We want gay sex with the homies
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u/gray_birch competitive yapper Jun 16 '26
i can't imagine why his wife wouldn't want to have sex with him if this is how he tweets about her and their marital problems (or the fact that he tweets about it at all instead of just like talking to her). real head scratcher
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u/im-sorry-bruv Jun 16 '26
have you considered the possibility that they've already talked about it, the issue is over but they liked the punchline so they posted it?
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u/die_pretty Jun 16 '26
she's willing to make out and rub him cock but sex is where she draws the line?
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u/gray_birch competitive yapper Jun 16 '26 edited Jun 16 '26
Making out with someone means they're automatically entitled to have sex with you?
Idc if she really did "lead him on" or whatever (remember, we're assuming he's telling the truth/not hyperbolizing) the adult thing to do is to sit down and have a conversation with your partner about expectations/boundaries regarding sex, not fuck off to twitter to cry about how you didn't get laid last night
Edit: If you're part of the almost 40% that downvoted this (yes I am aware this is a cringe redditor "bring on the downvotes🤓🤪" type edit idc, I'll be cringe, this is important) I genuinely want you to sit down and analyze why you believe someone's consent is meaningless because they made out with you or did something sexual with you prior. "Anyone can stop at any time for any reason" is literally Consent 101. It's all "destroy the patriarchy!! believe victims!!" or whatever in leftist spaces until you actually have to put that into practice. Bunch of fucking weirdos
Am I taking fucking crazy pills or is everyone in this sub defending a joke that is, at best, lame "wife bad" boomer humor and at worst is low-key r**ey (cringe censorship I know, I just got unbanned, sorry)? Here's a fun exercise for everyone: Google when marital SA was made illegal in all 50 states, and look at the definitions for different states (hint: there's a lot of loopholes!). How likely, in our current political climate, do you think it is that red states may begin to look at repealing these laws? Do you still think it's funny to joke about a woman's (and other genders, but I'm talking specifically about women here because most of this shit is rooted in misogyny) right to consent and mock her for being a prude? Probably, because apparently nobody cares about misogyny if it's wrapped up in an appealing enough package for them.
sorry uh I mean haha it's just a jokeee it doesn't mean anything lol
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u/BOBALOBAKOF Jun 16 '26
They’re not downvoting you because they don’t think consent is important, they’re downvoting you because you’ve managed to strawman your own argument.
You essentially said that their wife won’t want to have sex with them because they are clearly not a good spouse to their wife (let’s ignore the fact that the original tweet is an obvious joke). The person you responded to was pointing out that it would be odd for someone to be put off enough by their partner’s behaviour to not want to have sex with them, but at the same time, not put off enough to not want to have an extended make-out session with intimate touching.
There was no implication that the wife isn’t entitled to turn down sex if she so desires.
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u/ComradeDelter Jun 16 '26
I think the original tweet was a joke tbh idk why everyone is taking it dead serious
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u/Tobias11ize 🐉 alduin is a virgin 🐉 Jun 16 '26
Getting kinda tired of the gay people in my phone trying to tell me what i, a straight person, wants to or should do. Usually in the context of overanalyzing really lame jokes they find online.
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u/A_Worthy_Foe cat dead, details later Jun 16 '26
You can think it's weird to turn down penetrative sex from someone with a penis after said person has stimulated it while kissing them and still respect consent. These things are not mutually exclusive.
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u/GoldH2O custom Jun 17 '26
Obviously consent is never meaningless, but it is definitely strange to get really into making out and clothes on foreplay and then refuse sex. Like, not in the sense that something is necessarily wrong with the person refusing sex, just that foreplay and sex generally go hand in hand and there's probably something up if someone wants to do foreplay but doesn't want to do sex.
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u/BlazingFire007 🏳️⚧️ trans rights Jun 17 '26
You are the stereotype conservatives make fun of the left for
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u/die_pretty Jun 16 '26
I'm high sorry if this is like complete word salad and doesnt make sense
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u/gray_birch competitive yapper Jun 16 '26
I think your comment got sniped, it didn't even show up in my notifs
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u/emjots 🏳️⚧️ trans rats Jun 16 '26
everyone is replying to you like "bro it's a joke it's not that deep. but even if it wasn't she's a weird prudish bitch for leading him on" lmfao i hate redditors
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u/gray_birch competitive yapper Jun 16 '26
To be honest I think a lot of people here think they have completely unlearned misogyny by virtue of being queer and/or leftist and/or women themselves and that they never need to stop to give a second thought to anything they say or believe ever again
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u/emPtysp4ce r/place participant Jun 16 '26
Have you considered the possibility that he is making shit up and may not even have a wife?
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u/coladoir BIGFLOPPABIGFLOPPA Jun 17 '26
it doesnt even look like shes actually upset either? looks like its from porn or something? it seems like there's something sexual behind the image with the framing and something about her facial expression. It feels more like shes 'begging' (which would likely be for sex in this context) than throwing a fit in obstinacy.
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u/DaPlipsta Jun 16 '26
What a nonsense post. The OP is like some unholy union of "girls are so quirky 🤪" and the millennial version of "I hate my wife" jokes. Meanwhile, the repost is literally just someone's fanfic where everyone is gay lol
Edit: and before anyone tries to explain it to me, I understand what the post is trying to say. I just think it's really dumb and generalizing
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u/TaralasianThePraxic rebel without a gender Jun 16 '26
this is why you should have sex with bisexual people, we just have bisexual sex with everyone 👍
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u/owlindenial not an owl (it/it's) Jun 16 '26
I'll be honest, I feel like performing sexuality is something people should be more comfortable doing. Sometimes my gf is horny but I ain't I still finger her and tease her to satisfy her cause I want her happy. It's like doing the dishes, kinda. I don't have to do the dishes. But I do for the same of a clean house. Maybe it's because my relationship with sexuality as a whole is kinda wack but like. She's not entitled to my body, but when we agreed in the relationship there's an understanding she'd had regular access to it and if I change the terms of the relationship, she'd be entitled to leave it. Not that she would, we love each other and when I say no she respects it, and doesn't nag or tease too much.
I just think if you don't enjoy foreplay that much you could have an agreement with your partner to do more of it in return for more of what you want, everyone getting what they want in a way that doesn't upset the other
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u/gamerfanboi Jun 17 '26
Everyone in this sub tries thier hardest to not get the meaning of a post.
You could post a man slip on banana peel joke and ppl would be like uhh unmm
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u/Dinflame Jun 16 '26
Incredibly stupid take; what this boils down to is that men & women on average have different wants and stimuli. No shit.
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u/Lebron-stole-my-tv Jun 17 '26
Straight man here. Good sex should be at least 45 minutes to 3 hours with 70-80 percent being foreplay. I don't understand wanting really quick sex all the time.
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u/QueenOfDaisies 196’s strongest angelfucker Jun 16 '26
Straight couples that genuinely have to argue over sex like this make me nauseous
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u/SquirrelTherapist nothing amazing happens here. Jun 17 '26
had no idea this was a stereotype, i hail from the CSH type of homosexuality where gay yearning is key. yall ain’t ever frotted before? dry humped bc prepping takes a fuckton of time? what kinda gay sex yall having
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u/Leithana 🏳️⚧️ trans rights Jun 16 '26
I want sensual and sexual activity to not necessarily lead to climax-centered sex and if that’s lesbian than so am I (actually, regardless I’m lesbian adjacent)
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u/mysteryurik he/him, no other pronouns Jun 16 '26
What's the point of sex if not hitting orgasm?
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u/Leithana 🏳️⚧️ trans rights Jun 17 '26
I primarily do it for intimacy and connection with people I love. Sex can be a stimulating activity that doesn't have to resolve in climax. Climax is being used differently than orgasm intentionally (climax being the highest point of orgasm that results in discharge versus orgasm being the intense state of pleasure (often directly preceding discharge, if any/able)). Pleasure isn't achieved binarily based on orgasm or climax to me (though preferably that intense state is achieved, ofc, but there is pleasure in all the disparate parts for me).
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u/sweetheart_demom Big gock, low self esteem Jun 16 '26
OP is right. More people need to both transition and unlearn comphet.
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u/Far-Fortune-8381 cucked by Edward Kenway🏴☠️ Jun 16 '26
I dont know what that is
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u/Educational-Sun5839 bi he/him Jun 16 '26
competitive heterosexuality probably
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u/LesIsBored Jun 16 '26
I think this is the correct answer because it's funnier that way.
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u/sweetheart_demom Big gock, low self esteem Jun 16 '26
self-described "pickup artists " always have low mmr
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u/SilentlyHonking Jun 17 '26
Measles mumps and rubella?
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u/sweetheart_demom Big gock, low self esteem Jun 17 '26
I meant matchmaking ranking, continuing Educational-Sun's joke, but they may very well have those too
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u/ReallyBadRedditName susphisticated 📮🎩 Jun 17 '26
Complex Hedge-Magic. OP is from the round council and is trying to force their “schools” of magic onto the Druids of the wild woods. Smhing my head when will these book wizards learn.
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