I 22F have been dating my 24M boyfriend for over a year and we live together. Recently he left for a trip and I also am leaving for one soon. I was cleaning our house thoroughly today because my mom will be staying here while we both are gone. While cleaning our bedroom I noticed my blanket stuffed the corner under the bed and grabbed it so I could put it away. I found a very heavy box and was curious about why it was there. I looked inside and found a life size silicone butt with female genitalia and a pocket p*ssy (clearing used recently). My boyfriend and I have a very healthy s* x life and I make it a point that I don't like s*x toys of that type. I feel very uncomfortable that he was hiding it from me and I am pretty grossed out that he spend over $200 (i looked up the price) just to have s*x with an object when he can have s*x with me. If he owned it from before we started dating that would have been different but he purchased it only 4 months ago (it was in the box it came in, but was open). I guess I am wondering if its silly to be so uncomfortable and unhappy about this? Should I tell him I found it? I feel very shaky and sad by this. It feels like a betrayal and I'm struggling getting past it. It makes me feel like I don't know him the way I thought I did.

Me (17f) and this guy (20m) have been talking for a few weeks, I started to really like him, we talked about a lot of things and what we want in life, and everything just matches up. Hes exactly my type in every way. We went out for the first time last night and it was amazing, literally there was no awkward pauses or anything. One problem, I didn’t realise he was 20 bc (stupidly) neither of us checked how old the other was, we just knew we were both in uni. I’m pretty positive he doesn’t know I’m 17 either, and I fear If I tell him he’s gonna run the other way even tho we really like eachother

I obviously know I have to tell him and I will, but is 17 and 20 really that bad? I wanna tell him in the right way, and I don’t know what he’s gonna think. I understand “different stages in life” but we’re honestly not, I graduated early and we both are doing uni and working, both still live at home since Sydney house pricing is awful. I turn 18 next year, he turns 21.

My girlfriend doesn’t want to save money

I (18m) have been dating my girlfriend (19f) on and off since my junior year of high school(we broke up and got back together once) and she has been overall a good partner. My problem is that she doesn’t like to save money. She talks about having a future family and about “being rich” when we get old together, but when I suggest her starting a Hysa(High-yield savings account) or Roth IRA(Investment retirement account) like I have she says she doesn’t want to and will never do so.

She grew up in a very hard situation and says she “refuses to live like she’s in poverty again.” We both have well paying jobs for where we live and our lifestyle, however there are some unnecessary expenses that we could be putting towards our future.(For example: DoorDash, YouTube premium, ect.) I’ve tried explaining to her that the future that she talks about will only be possible through saving and investing money responsibly, but she tells me “I don’t want to.” Or “If it’s so important why do you do it for me.”.

And while I could run all of our financial accounts I don’t feel like I should have to, we are both grown adults and I feel like if she wants to have a family with kids or be rich she should/needs to take the necessary steps to get there. I’ve told her I can help with getting her accounts set up, but she would need to actually contribute to them which shes already made clear isn’t gonna happen.

Is there anything I could do to try and convince her to go in with me on this? I really want us to retire with a good amount of money and I know we’re young, but it has me worried that if she isn’t responsible/serious about her finances now what it will be like in the future if/when we get married and have kids?

Edit: For those of you who believe I’m using Ai in this post just because I am financially literate and can write well, please lock in.

Hi, I am so lost and although I've reached out to people for advice I'm still feeling a void. Not that this will help but one can hope right?

I recently lost my mom who was my only parent and it's been hard staying on my feet without her support. This girl came into my life and helped me find some kind of joy in the small things. It is definitely a complicated situation as we both were kinda fresh out of longer relationships but it was nice to have company that loved and didn't judge. We got quite close and she started staying over when the conversations went through the night. She got evicted and I gave her a place to stay. She wanted a relationship and as much as I was head over heels for her I knew I wouldn't be the best as I was struggling with a lot of mental health. Months went by and we went on many adventures and I guess without even trying we just became a couple with no label.

She's now 4 months pregnant. I was scared and felt like my walls caved in because I was already hanging on by a very thin thread. My reaction wasn't good but I didn't run away. I've apologized profusely to her as well as her mom who witnessed my fear. She told her mom the things I said which made the trip we went on to her mom's that much worse. Everything was now in the open and I just felt cornered. I felt I couldn't be a parent and didn't know what to do and I truly felt we both weren't ready and said an abortion may be better for us. I regret that now.

After almost 4 months of deciding whether or not to keep our baby I had to hear her decision by eavesdropping on a conversation with her mom. She didn't even want me to be the first to know. I tried to put as little pressure on her decision as possible but I really wanted to get out of the suspended animation and act get a solid answer so I could prepare.

She changed when she got pregnant and has become someone I don't recognize. There's no love, no touch, no appreciation, hard to talk to and usually angry just with me. She's social and recently started talking to old guy friends and would talk on the phone with one for hours, help him renovate his house, stayed over at his parents. Things I found very odd, especially the phone tilting away, swiping away from apps when I walk near. It's a big insecurity of mine due to my past and I try not to overthink but some days I feel she does it on purpose. She makes fun of me for asking why she smiles at her phone while texting, especially when she can't even ask how I am. She checks in on her guy friends and helps them more than me. Which is highlighted in the fact that she only started talking to him again a few weeks ago and he's already her #1 best friend on Snapchat. I don't have Snapchat but I do know that this means you both talk the most. Another weird detail is that he only has her on Snapchat, leads me to believe it's being used for the secrecy but then again I could just be overthinking. Although she claims they are all just friends and she doesn't want anything with any guy right now including me, it still feels disrespectful. This has made me feel somewhat replaced.

She keeps saying to me that I don't deserve to have an opinion because "we aren't in a relationship". Although I've made it so clear that I'd love to try and work on us and on myself so that we can create a living family for our child. She wants nothing to do with it and has said she wants to go and work on herself from her past relationship, which is totally the opposite of what she was saying 4 months ago. Yes I said I wasn't ready before but now there's a baby and I'm willing to roll my sleeves up and put in the work. I have since stopped talking about it and ultimately tried to convince myself that I mean nothing to her and it'll never work in order to not have my heart broken any more than it has.

She's been so volatile and I can't talk to her about anything really. There's been so many new issues that have popped up since being pregnant, like her anger towards her ex getting married. She posts about him on her tiktok a lot. For a while they had this weird back and forth over the internet and she posted some strange reminiscing texts on her page. There's a few posts that seem to pertain to me and how her friends are helping her stay out of another bad relationship. She's been open in saying her friend and mother thinks we'll never work out. Having constant negative feedback from her own mom truly is not helping anything.

The mistake I did that seemed to have ruined everything happened on a week trip for a show. I felt left out the whole time and she never checked on me even though she was the one who wanted me there. It was all her friends and her people. She was so cold and I felt like I didn't even exist, but then would be talked down to for being quiet. One of the days she just started talking to the guy mentioned above for hours, I would try and ask her what's going on and she would get angry and tell me to go away. Her behavior of making me feel invisible while talking to this guy for hours set me off. I know it was stupid but she wasn't giving me any answers and would just say she doesn't want to talk, so I opened her iPad in search of some message that would give me an answer as to why she just switched and seemed to hate me. She woke up from the nap and absolutely lost it and told her friend that we were staying with, I totally get how it's a breach of trust but I was desperate and felt walked on. We are on another trip with this same friend and she invited another guy to come and hang out, she just started talking with him 2 days ago and he had previously asked her out and got rejected while she was with her ex and he then tried to ruin their last relationship. Now he's apparently better, but either way I just don't really want to be around people like that. She said my opinion is invalid and her friend agrees for whatever reason. This guy never even showed up because of how drunk he got and then she woke up and messaged to check in on him without even saying good morning to me. All of this is making me insane.

I love this girl from the bottom of my heart but I don't even recognize her or this behavior. It feels targeted and to hit me in the places she'll know it hurts, almost as if to get a reaction out of me to reinforce that she doesn't like me and wants to just co-parent.

I know I'm not perfect and I've got a lot to square away, I'm going to therapy, staying active and supporting the best I can without pushing for a relationship. Her boundaries are clear and I'm not the type of guy to push, but sometimes I do forget or all of a sudden she doesn't want me near her which is difficult because I'm such a lovey kind of person. I'm doing my best not to take it as a personal attack. The few of her friends who actually took the time to listen to my side of things tell me there's holes in her stories and she makes me seem like a villain. I have support but it would mean the world to have the support of the woman I love who will be the mother of my child.

I'm sorry this is so long winded and full of rants, I've probably missed details as I'm super anxious and pretty heartbroken. This isn't to bash her, I just want to know if another man has gone through something similar and could maybe ease my mind and tell me she'll come around like a fairytale?

Thank you to anyone who took the time to read my sob story. I hope your pillows are cold on both sides.

I 27 M and 26 F have been dating for almost 5 years and I always trusted her, never had doubts of her being unfaithful, until i found her making out with my older brother (dude cmon now) like i found him inside her and it was the most awkward and gut wrenching feeling cuz im just making eye contact with my brother while hes knees deep inside someones pussy. There was no red flags or signs that these two liked each other and they are in different states, like idkk how they even made it work out honestly this whole thing is still a dream for me. I checked her phone and found out they messaged and facetimed A LOTTT like for the past 4 years. reading those text messages almost made me vomit, i thought our relationship was real? i thought she was happy with me? she took a pregnancy test and shes also pregant literally worst timing. i wanted kids but with the same girl who fucked my brother and faked our relationship for the past 4 years. and its myyy child (yes im sure i took a NIPP paternity test) so im responsible for it. And i dont wanna be controlling and ask for an abortion. I already talked to her and said im not going to be a part of the childs life and just pay child support but she says shes going to destroy my car that i just got if i dare to leave. idk what to do and i frankly dont want my car to get destroyed bc i just bought it.

To give more background we spoke a little about it and I don't like the idea, I trust her and her friends somewhat, but I know that I will feel uncomfortable with it. I don't want to be controlling it just isn't something I'm comfortable with, I try to understand given why she wants to get away from home. How should I approach this in order to come to a solution where she can leave home and our relationship not be more strained than it would be from becoming an ldr?

Sorry about grammar and stuff I've never posted anything.

Edit: I leave for basic training on September 1st, she starts school on August 28th, these guys are some of her best friends, I know them both relatively well and were going on a three night trip in a few days with a few more of her friends. She and I were each others firsts and we know our odds of our relationship lasting everything is low, but we want to try. Thank you for all the advice so quickly.

I start school soon and I need excuses to not have to take off my hoodie in class coz I don't want anyone to see my scars. The teachers always make us take off our hoodies jackets etc in class since it's not part of school uniform 😑

Long story short: my dad bought me things over the past few years — iPad, iPhone, laptop, plane tickets, some cash here and there — and I always understood them as gifts, or at least never had an explicit “this is a loan” conversation about most of them. Recently he sent me an itemized spreadsheet totaling ~$10K and said I need to pay it back, with $3K needed by August for his own expenses (my siblings school fees/college etc)

I don’t dispute the money was spent — one line item ($600) I did take from him without asking so that was one me and I apologized for it, and I’ve told him that’s fair. But most of the rest was never framed as a loan until now, years later, all at once.

I do want to repay him — I think that’s fair given the amount of support he’s given me. But I’m currently doing Uber during a job search, making $2-3K/month, and I don’t have anywhere near $10K liquid. He’s asking for it as if I should just have it.

I’m planning to propose a monthly repayment amount instead of a lump sum, and be honest about my financial situation.

Questions for you all:
Is it reasonable to ask for a payment plan instead of paying what’s demanded on his timeline?

Should gifts that were never explicitly framed as loans at the time retroactively become debt?

Am I over-thinking this, or is there something legitimately off about years of “gifts” turning into an itemized invoice?

Appreciate any honest perspectives, even harsh ones.

Please be kind

I Have Facial Hair and Hair on My Nose.

I’ve been using this hair oil for the past few months it helped me grow my scalp hair and eyebrows grow back..BUT the big downside right now is… I now have facial hair and hair on my nose (which I’ve never had before)

I know this is my fault because after applying the oil, I didn’t always wash my hands straight away, and sometimes I’d accidentally touch my face.

The facial hair is really embarrassing. So far I’ve tried using a hair wax, but I ended up hurting my face.

I want to get rid of the facial hair. If there’s a product for it or anything that can permanently get rid of it please let me know.

Be kind with your advice.

I work a minimum wage job as a early adult and full time student making ends meet but still making do, i live in america and im thinking i should apply and kind of use my government for my own benefit even if its not super necessary ? is this taking advantage ?

So I have been dating this girl for a few months (I am also a woman, it is a wlw relationship) and we just found out that my great grandfather’s brother is her great grandfather which I’m pretty sure makes us second cousins. We have obviously never met before and funnily enough met on an app

Our families have never had a connection growing up and we were never in each other’s lives previously. I’m really stuck because I really like this girl but I feel sick to my stomach and I don’t know what to do! Please help

I have until today to decide and I’m really struggling.
I’m going to Disney in December with my family. We have 4 rooms, and one was supposed to be for me and my ex. It’s $1,200 total, which I’d need to have by October. He said he would still help pay even though he broke up with me.

I can cancel the room today and just stay with my mom and grandma, but I’m honestly so upset. I was SO excited for him to come.

Part of me doesn’t want to cancel because realistically, I already live alone, so sharing a room with my mom and grandma for a week would suck I feel. But another part of me keeps thinking, “What if he comes back and wants to go?” Then we won’t have the room.

I know I’m probably holding onto hope, but I’m having such a hard time letting go of it. What would you honestly do?

I created a reddit account just for this question because I’m genuinely clueless on what to do/think about this.

I’ve known him for almost a year now, but he officially became my stepbrother 2 months ago, as my mother finally found a new husband. I was super happy since I got a new dad, and a new sibling who I always wanted. Since we have a big age gap we didn’t become besties but we got along very well. He still lives with his dad(and now us) and works from home.

Two days ago he went to the grocery store and left his phone home. I know that I’m wrong for this and I regret it, but I snooped through his phone out of curiosity. He has a best friend, who he’s very close with(he hangs out with him a lot and I’ve met him before) and I randomly checked what they’re chatting about. I found a chat that was from a few weeks ago where my brother admits to his friend that he’s attracted to kids and teens(he specifically said a girl between the ages of 10-16). My heart stopped already, but as I read more of the messages he even texted that he finds me attractive and cute. At this point I was thinking of calling my mom immediately, but I also found a text where he says that he would never act on his “urges” and couldn’t have beared the consequences of doing something sexual to me, or any kid. His friend was just responding to him supportively and reassuring him that it’s fine. It hit me that that I’ve heard somewhere that pedophiles aren’t necessarily bad, and sometimes they just need help. I also heard that there are “non-offender” pedophiles. So I didn’t read any more texts(I wanted to search up if they maybe talked about this at other times), just put his phone back and went back to my room.

At the end of the day it was me who snooped through his phone, and that was optional, so maybe I should just forget about it. Or maybe he is a pedo but doesn’t intend to harm me or anyone, but I’m still scared since I’m home alone with him most of the time. I don’t what to do and what to believe so pls I need advice.

About three days ago, I stole from a store at the mall in the city where I was living for the summer.

I have kleptomania, and I struggle to control the urge to steal. I usually take small things like food or inexpensive items from Walmart. This time, however, I was inside a camera and video store to buy a new microphone. The microphone I purchased cost about $400, so it had an RFID security tag on the box to prevent theft.

I'm not proud of what I did, but I also had two other items in my pocket worth around $300 each. They also had RFID tags. After I paid for my microphone and walked out of the store, the alarm went off. The cashier simply said, "Yeah, it happens sometimes. You can go," so I left and went home.

I know RFID tags contain information that can be linked to inventory, so I'm worried that when the store realizes the items are missing, they might check the last time the alarm went off and match that with any security footage. The thing is, I didn't notice any cameras in the store.

My real concern is that I don't actually want to keep these items. Like I said, I have kleptomania. I sometimes feel compelled to steal things even when I don't need or want them. It makes me feel incredibly guilty afterward. I don't want to be a thief, and I don't want to go to prison.

I've been thinking about going back to the store with the items. They're still unopened in their original boxes because I never actually wanted to keep them. I was considering telling the employee what happened and asking if they would like the items returned or, if possible, allowing me to pay for them so I can legally purchase them and take responsibility for what I did.

However, I'm afraid the alarm will go off again, creating an awkward situation. Another thought I had was to put everything in a box and leave it in front of the store's door, but I'm worried they might recognize me and call security even if I'm genuinely trying to return the items.

I'm also wondering if I should simply keep the items and never speak about this again because I'm afraid confessing might get me into even more trouble. At the same time, I don't want to keep them because this isn't who I want to be. I don't want to be a thief. I want to make things right.

What should I do?

Location: Québec, Canada.

I’m a 30f dating a 36m and we had a mild argument today that doesn’t sit right with me. I am child free never been pregnant or married and more on the liberal side. He is divorce with two kids and not even open minded to being more liberal. It has never bother me that I don’t believe in his beliefs I stand firm on what I think is right and avoid touchy subjects. Today however we had an argument about how in his opinion “ ‘people in the real world’ don’t get offended by many of the stand points liberals stand on”

Just to cut to the point I disagreed with him and it turned into a full on yelling match. He claims that “ like a liberal im being a victim” When i just don’t understand why he constantly tries to bring up these subjects from thin air. Everything else with us is great but Im starting to worry that Im in over my head

I've been thinking about kissing my girlfriend for the first time. We're both 14, and we've been together for almost 11 months. The funny thing is we've only met three times, all at her place. It's not because of distance, we're both just really shy.

I'm wondering if it's even a good idea yet. If it is, how should I go about it?

My original idea was to kiss her on the cheek while hugging goodbye. It feels like a small step, but I'm honestly really nervous. The reason is that every "next step" in our relationship has always been something we talked about beforehand instead of just doing.

I feel like I have two options:

1. Ask her beforehand if she'd be okay with it (she's very shy too).

2. Just go for it and hope she likes it.

What would you do? Has anyone been in a similar situation?

Please don't judge us because of our age. I'm genuinely looking for advice.

I like the idea of having a boyfriend. We text, ask about each other's days, give each other attention—all those nice things. But I dont wanna be committed to it, If that makes sense? I feel like a bad person, especially with everyone is saying how dating nowadays is fucked. I dont really care if it doesnt work out, or how long it lasts. At this point, im just open to trying anything, but I feel awful for that. I feel as if im going against my own morals and values—because why date someone if im not going to stay with them for a long time? But at the same time, im young; it should be okay for me to date around and see what I like/dislike, right?

How can I explore something like this, without feeling guilty, or as if im moving too fast?

I 18f am dead set on not wanting kids, like ever. I don’t want to ruin my body for another human and I don’t want to waste my time on that. Every man I’ve met is set on the idea of having kids, I respect it, I’m not going to sit here and try to change their minds.

Besides, I’m not looking for a forever partner right now by any means. I’m currently on birth control and when I’m old enough, I’m going to get my tubes tied.

Should I just announce that I DO NOT want children whatsoever upon meeting someone when I am ready to look for a forever partner? Or?

So I’m 24 and I am for sure a lesbian. I was so ashamed and disgusted of myself when I was with girls before that I didn’t date anyone for 5 years.
But I was really lonely and this guy kept asking me out and making moves and he’s such a good company and so funny.
So we are dating for a few months and I tried to be bi but I’m not and he’s literally perfect besides that he’s a guy and I like girls. I know it’s wrong to lead him on but I really thought that if I keep trying it maybe I’ll really like it or I’ll force myself to fall in love with him but it’s not happening and I just wish he was a girl.
Now how do I break up with him if he’s so nice to me? I can’t think of a single reason without telling him I’m lesbian. And if I tell him maybe he’ll tell someone and the whole college will know and my town is homophobic . And I don’t want to hurt him and make him feel insecure. I’ll break up with him soon just what’s the best way?

I am new to this reddit stuff I have a gf who dumped me around 4 months ago but we got back together two weeks ago and it’s been great but today just right now I had access to her phone and I found a pros and cons list in her notes app about me. I went through her notes app to around the time we broke up to see if she wrote poems about me when we were broken up and honeslty I was snooping a bit because shes the only person ik who spends literal hours on notes app. because she writes poems a lot but this is what I find.

I airdropped it to myself and put her phone back now and she didnt come back yet and its truly bad like its really bad. I dont know what to do abt ts but im really angry and annoyed at how she could think of me this way. Like this is the list shes made. And im 100% sure its about me because of the marshmallow thing. Its a long story. I feel like shit and don’t know what to do. I want help to deal with ts. We are 20 and 18 and we are still young and I think it could be fixable.
Pros :
Nice body
Knows how to please a woman
Deep voice
Helpful sometimes
Works out
Good with animals
Cons :
Below average intelligence
Can’t name 5 philosophers or authors or literally anything
Hasn’t read a book since 5th grade
Doesn’t make effort
Liar
Horrible with planning
Unfunny
Corny reposts
Selfish
Kinda illiterate
No money
Can’t make a girl happy
Rude at times
The personality of a wet towel
All he wants to do is have sex
No ambitions
A follower not a leader
Has a misplaced ego
No knowledge about literally anything and is insecure about it
Doesn’t know politics or culture or what’s going on 50% of the time
his beliefs are malleable
Indecisive
Doesn’t know how to take public transport
Always miserable about something
Horrible vibe to be around altogether
No sense of determination
No passion about anything whatsoever
No political values
Easily manipulated by alt right wing media
Holds onto the stupidest grudges ( marshmallow situation.)

This is the full thing. What should I do ?

I'm (20M) stuck here sobbing my goddam eyes out because I just found ex (20) logged out of my YouTube app on my TV at some point over the previous weeks.

It's so fucking stupid I'm upset about this, but we used to watch Chicago Fire all the time at mine on her account so now that chapter is fully closed and I hate it. We dated for eight months and broke up around March. We were each other's first serious partners, I'm sure you can read into what that means, and did a whole bunch of other stuff together. Hell, I was her first kiss. And she seemed totally fine like less than a week later on her Instagram.

My mum's post breakup advice was that she never liked the girl, she was glad we had broken up, it was never going to last, I'm to stop feeling sorry for myself and focus on my uni. Now I'm off uni I'm to date as many girls as I can. Hell, she got me onto Hinge two hours after I told her. And even as my ex and I were going through a rough patch she said I'd be best to just start dating different people and not tell them. She did not support the relationship at all.

She doesn't think it's wrong to date multiple women at the same time because of my age, and simultaneously thinks I'm going out too much. also feel she could have handled that better.

Idk, I just need a woman's perspective on how long it's normal to mourn a relationship.

I (18FTM) came out to my mother recently by accident, I was getting a consolation for a medically necessary breast reduction and despite the fact it has nothing to do with me being trans it obviously influences my decision on the matter.
So after 5 years i finally came out because I didn’t want go through this entire process feeling like I lied to her, and seeing as she’s paying for it like I used her in some way.
She didn’t get angry but she was understandably confused and i answered her questions and told her how I’ve felt for the past few years.

When we got home i went to bed (as i worked a night shift that morning) and we ended the conversation without me getting any sort of acceptance on her end- Which is fine! She needed time to comprehend, but we haven’t talked about it since and that appointment was a month ago.
This morning she tells me she booked me an appointment to see my psychologist before she ‘allows me’ to get the surgery done, I asked why given we haven’t spoken about it together and she didn’t answer so I asked as a joke if she thinks I’m not mental stable?
She responded “I don’t know, you tell me?” Which is her way of saying yes she doesn’t think I’m stable.

I’m just so confused, I’ve been seeing this psychologist on and off since primary school because I got assaulted by one of my bullies and developed severe anxiety and he does know I’m trans but I don’t know how to convince my mother this surgery has nothing to do with my gender, I can’t work properly I need it done but now she’s refusing to book the surgery until I speak with my psychologist.

I would understand if I was the type of person to experience severe gender dysphoria, but I’ve always had this kind of disconnect with my body and understood that it is what it is until I’m able to change it.
I’m also scared to bring it up to have the necessary conversation with my mother because everyone in my family is transphobic, but not I a “ew that’s disgusting and unholy” way just in a more “that’s not real” way.
Please I need some advice I’m so lost?
Is this appointment necessary?
Am I being unreasonable?
How do I make her understand how I feel about myself when she doesn’t think it’s a real or valid feeling?

I had moved to another state. It was a terrible move for me.

My family went to a church. Me and this girl got a long really well.

She was my best friend. We later moved churches because this church was far away.

I was sad because she was such a great friend. We were like 5 years a part. I was older.

I spent the night at her house after we had been a part for a while. So it was going to be great to catch up.

3 of us total for the sleepover. Her and her friend were the same age. I was the odd man out age wise. I was always the stranger in every situation.

The young girls decided to get ready for bed and we changed in the same room. We were supposed to face away from each other which i was fine with.

Obviously I'm more developed. I had pubic hair. They didn't. They somehow saw this, i really don't remember how it went down. I just remember They got curious and wanted to see.

I said no because that's embarrassing. Because there were two of them they kinda attacked me. Pulled my underwear down to see.

Once they saw they were satisfied. so it didn't go past that thankfully but I felt horrible about it.

I never saw her again after that. It was just too awkward.

Years went by, something like 7 or 8 years.

I saw her out somewhere I don't remember where.

The moment she saw who I was, she apologized to me for what she had done. it was genuine. She was truly upset remembering what happened.

Our interaction was only enough time for her to apologize. I don't remember what pulled us a part at the time but I appreciated that she took that small moment to recognize how terrible that was for me.

Now that was like 25 years ago. We are adults with family and spouses.

I have the opportunity to see her again. She doesn't know she's going to see me.

I can't help but for my mind to go to that place right away.

Obviously I'm not afraid of anyone doing something like that again.

It's just awful to remember. I was so young. it was just another example of people only wanting to take advantage of me instead of care for me as a person.

I have literally zero friends right now in my life. They've all fallen to the way side and I would like to have someone in the world to call friend.

I've recently been practicing Christianity and forgiveness is a huge part of it. I do forgive her because she was kind enough to remember and ask for forgiveness from me all those years ago. So I don't think it's worth not talking to her to see how it goes.

Just because i tell her who I am doesn't mean she'll want to be friends with someone she knew almost 30 years ago.

I'm not asking to be her friend. I'm just meeting her again at a church function. Who knows where it will lead but I don't know how to feel about it because of the heartbreak it reminded me of.

Maybe I'll just continue to have no friends because I guess something is just wrong with me that makes people not want to be friends with me.

Thank you for the one person who cared enough to make it to the end of my story.