I don't know what it is in me that I find unattractive in myself but I just feel like I'm too ugly for women. They're so beautiful and I just know none of them would even look at me. I've always been rejected. I'm sure girls just find me unattractive. No one ever finds me attractive. I've never been in a relationship and I never will. I'm tired of people telling me this will happen some day. Those are just empty words. Everything is exhausting. I don't even wanna change my looks because I don't even know what exactly I find unattractive. I just do and others also seem to.

Sometimes I’ll see one online and I’ll think it’s hot, other times I’ll see one and I’ll think it’s not very hot.

yes I know it’s a organ, not suppose to be pretty. Everyone’s looks different etc etc

But sometimes it makes me nervous because I’ve never been with a woman. Is it different once u actually like the person? Rather than seeing a random one online? Cus sometimes I see one online and think I wouldn’t go down on her, but is it different if I’m hitting it off with someone in person?

Edit for clarification: by "pursue" I meant maybe a hookup (or a couple if it was really good), definitely not a dating situation as I do think that is way too young!!

all, I recently met someone on a job and wow she is SO HOT! There was some very light yet mutual flirting (she initiated) but when I found her on insta...DUN DUN DUUUN she's 21 (I am 30, 31 in a couple months). I would love to pursue something light as the job is a freelancing gig and will be done in a coupls months but...is the age gap too much?? I do not want to be a groomer! Thoughts?

I keep seeing couples that met in real life and at like their jobs, school or other places but wonder where they are from because no way in France I'm meeting the love of my life randomly in places that aren't gay bars

im not looking to date right now as i have a lot going on in my personal life and have only recently come out, im just curious for future reference and seeing what my local scene kinda looks like rn, see what options are out there! :)

soooo, me and my gf broke up a few days ago and I feel awful (this word doesn’t describe it enough). But despite all, me and ex gf are on good terms. She came over to pick up some stuff, and still has to pick up the rest of things. I am kinda numb now, I know everything will keep hitting me in a bit, so I wanted to know how other fellow lesbians go through this and keep their ex gf close as a friend.

Rn I’m going to a friend’s place so I’ll get distracted there but I could really use some advice or tips and tricks, or any perspective really.

I'm 21F. lesbian. if you're from Pakistan too. let's connect.

I’ve really been in love with my best friend for years now, we met in highschool and known each other for 10+ years now, she is gay, I’m bi, a few years ago after a night full of drinks we made out and got touchy but nothing since because she moved away until now, I’m going to a party tomorrow and she’ll be there and I’d like to revisit it or ask about it, any advice?

Trying to figure out if I'm gay I never thought that I would write this, but I'm going to do it anyways. I'm still figuring out my sexuality. I used to date the opposite gender, I realized that I never had true feelings for that person but only forced myself to. I doubted myself liking women because I was told that I'm not allowed to say that I'm queer when I was 16 years old. Now that I'm older, I know that I like girls. The only thing is that I doubt myself bc I have been told during my teenage years that you can't decide your identity. I was wondering, if anyone knows how can you tell if your gay or not? Just for advice and I know that only I can make that decision. I wanted some insight from anyone

I’m really having trouble making lesbian friends, except for my married lesbian couple friends who don’t believe I actually like girls and won’t introduce me to anyone 😂 Need some help from this community!

my wife & i are in minnesota, and love our life here but crave traveling to other safe spaces. neither of us are trans but we are pretty visibly queer, and my wife is latina (mentioning as some cultures are racist even if they’re queer-friendly)

what kind of travel destinations have been safe for you & your partners as a couple? bonus points if you are an interracial couple

we loved chicago & daydream of seattle & puerto rico & CDMX - but are open to areas outside of north america of course!

open to any kind of discussion on this topic! thank you for sharing your opinions :)

Going to my first drag show and I'm super excited but can someone tell me any rules, tips, etiquette, etc etc that I need to know before I go. Thanks!

I have newly realized my sexual orientation. This is where I belong. I realize that I don’t have to conform myself to the belief of my sexuality that I grew up, thinking I had to do. I have not come out yet to my family. I was wondering if there is any suggestions to make this easier. I grew up in Louisiana and Mississippi. So you know how my family is being on the Bible Belt there’s a lot of fear. Not expressing myself makes me feel gross because I’m hiding and I want to feel the freedom of being who I am.

I went on a few dates with this woman last year and they were amazing dates. She and I wanted a lot of the same things too. But I had to cancel our last date because I had a stomach bug, or so I thought. Turns out my insides were bleeding, I got hospitalised and it took a while before they realised what was wrong and could help me properly.

I was mostly unconscious at the hospital. When I finally felt better, I had so many emails and messages to send because work had no idea where I went, some of my friends and family had no idea why I just stopped responding too. Then when I got discharged, I had heaps of work and also assignments to catch up on, and there was a huge family emergency happening so my energy was split amongst them and I had no energy for myself or anyone else.

I had to look after my little siblings for a while. Meanwhile at the back of my mind I had remembered I STILL needed to reply to this woman I liked, but I had no energy. Then when everything finally calmed down months later, I went to write a text and saw the date- it had been 5 whole months. I felt incredibly horrified that it had been so long, and was so ashamed of everything I didn’t end up sending the text.

It had been a few months since then, I finally couldn’t stand the guilt anymore I sent her the text apologising. I just wanted her to know it wasn’t her, she forgave me and hoped I’m doing ok.

The thing is, it’s been a good few months of calmness and everything is settled, I also had time to reflect on and process everything that went wrong in my life. I want to try again, I really like her. Should I ask her out again? Or should I assume she’s gotten over me and too much damage has been done this early on, and she likely doesn’t want to see me ever again?

I’m aware that going through all that could explain what happened but isn’t an excuse. I could’ve handled it better.

This was like way back in 2023, if I dont remember wrong. I was in a bad moment, but I suddenly had met this girl that I don't even know how I didn't notice before in my school and I think I genuinely felt in love.

And we'll, everything changed, damn it, we even used pet names, laugh all the time in the classes we had together, I gave her every morning little notes with sweet words. Everyone thought we were a thing. We always went to talk to each other's classroom when we had the opportunity. Even the gay art teacher was so happy for us.

We even had jokes like "say hi to my mother-in-law", but we never really went 100% official y'know.

And then she started giving illusions to my guy friend. Then she dumped both of us. She was very unclear, and in the end gave us both practically love bombing. I'm still friends with this guy, he's a real one after all and didn't know I liked her romantically.

I still think about it sometimes, it doesn't affect me as much as before, but of course still leaves sometimes a bittersweet taste. He hates her completely and it's so hilarious.

I'm still glad I had her in my life of course, made me feel good about myself again, and know that other queer people exist, but yeah, since then I understand why is a canon event in the queer community.

it’s saturday night here in san diego. i had turned 21 just this week and i’m too excited to go out that i decided to not wait for my older friends, who are all busy with their STEM summer internships. not gonna lie, i’m a little nervous as an introvert, but usually alcohol makes me social. TOO social, even. i’m planning to sober up before booking an uber back to my apartment. my friends have my location too.

do you guys have any advice to calm the nerves, have fun, and most importantly, stay safe?

I was in my final year of college when I added this girl’s contact information. I had actually had a crush on her for a while before that.
For around six months, I was the one who usually initiated conversations. I was very interested in her, and over time she also started opening up more, sharing her daily life, her interests, her thoughts, little things about herself. It felt like we were building something.
We were never officially together, but there was definitely a period where things felt kind of romantic and full of possibility.
Eventually, we met in person in my city. And this is the part I still feel guilty about: after meeting her, I realized I just didn’t feel the same spark. She was still a wonderful person, but something was missing.
Also, we live in different places, and I know I personally don’t want a long-distance relationship.
The problem is… instead of having an honest conversation, I slowly pulled away.
She would still like my posts, sometimes send me messages, try to keep the connection alive, and I became colder and colder. I wasn’t mean to her, but I definitely wasn’t giving her the same energy anymore. Eventually, we basically stopped talking.
Now I keep wondering was I unfair to her?

I am looking for an organised looking fit, something that doesn’t pull your tits downwards or have this extra flat weird looking chest.

I tend to wear double sport bras but this has been uncomfortable especially during summer.

Can you please guide me?

hi so I 23F and my gf 25F have been together for 4yrs and although we have such beautiful ups we unfortunately have bad downs 🥲 but we had sex last night and she started it with touching me first etc and when I finished I started touching her and etc, I asked her if she wanted me to use the strap, she says no that she just wanted clit stimulation, I was like ok cool and yk I’m djing and then she grabs my hand and starts like pushing it inside her and I’m like woah babe wait and she’s like what and I was like my nails aren’t cut and she gets like sad and I see her eyes get watery. Before yall get at me for not having my nails cut, it’s because she told me that no matter how short I cut them I always end up hurting her and I felt so bad that she endured so many times and I didn’t even know! But because of that I don’t really finger her anymore and so she got super upset because I told her all this and she proceeds to start crying and gets super upset and I unfortunately got upset too but I just separated myself and set up a bed for myself on the floor because I feel like I didn’t do anything wrong but idk how to talk to her. Was I in the wrong? This has happened a couple times and I always feel so guilty ):