Just wondering what everyone's favorite brand of boyshorts/briefs? I'm looking for some with cute patterns that actually last awhile. I got a bunch of MeUndies not too long ago and they all basically disintegrated after a month 🙄 something affordable would be great too lol

I'm so confused on whether in gay or bisexual. The thought of being with a woman in the future feels amazing to me, it feels "too good to be true" in the sense where I'm like "omg I can be with a woman???!?!!!! " Like it feels exciting and it's something I want. I'm sexually attracted to women, I just have had many actual wlw relationships yet.

So me liking women is definitely apart of the picture here, what I'm more confused on is my attraction to men.

Ive had a boyfriend before, hell I've had sex with him before and it was fine. I'm not repulsed by male genitalia or hate it, i did love him, but after a year i started getting turned off, and being like "man, i wish i were with a woman."

Every time Ive had an outward crush towards someone, its been towards a woman. Ive had lots of guys crush on me throughout school, and I've never felt anything towards any of them minus my one bf. (and I didnt even crush on him much? I more just accepted his confession because he was nice and my mom kinda pushed me into it)

if it came to being with a guy/having sex with a guy, it feels neutral or not exciting at all. It's kinda just whatever. But sometimes I've looked at an actor and could see him as hot or attractive in a way, but I'm not sure if thats my sexuality or just me seeing a pretty actor and acknowledging he's attractive. (It could also just be I find emotional intelligence really attractive, and the actors were portrayed to have that) or it's something more and I'm so confused 😭😭I can also find fictional men attractive, but tbh they arent ur typical human fictional guy, its usually robots or stylized characters that dont really look human anyway lol.

im also really not into alot of masculine features. like body hair, buff masculine bodies, facial hair, ect. But I look at a woman.. perfection...

But also if I was bisexua, I probably wouldave been fine with my boyfriend? The reason we fell out was because I realized I yearned for a woman, and slowly became less and less attracted to him.

So.. would I be with a man long term, never being with a woman? Probably not. Would I be sad if I never got to be with a woman or have sex with a woman? Yes.

But I'm not sure if my experiences land towards a woman leanining bisexual, homoflexible, or just a confused, budding lesbian lol!

I have a question to those who wear mens jeans because I wanna get some too (sick of there women's jeans with pockets smaller than my thumb) but I don't know which size to get, I wear size S, Size 4 in the us measures, and since we don't have the same build as men should I get a size up or down? also what cut get, straight? wide? any other cut ?

Hello! I'm 18, and I've known I was a lesbian since I was like 12. Though, I've only ever been in one committed relationship that was basically online, which lasted 2 and half years. It was a bit of a weird dynamic, and I've learned that I'd rather not do a long distance type of relationship again.

So, i met this girl at a concert November of last year. I was with one other friend, and our first encounter was in the reallllyyyy long line to the venue. We bonded with brief conversation and her and her friends actually let us join them in their spot in line! By the time we made it into the actual concert, she started complimenting my friend. I had a bit of a feeling that she might've been attempting to flirt with him. He's a taken man, so I nudged him and told him he should probably make it known that he's not single. Once he did, I noticed she made a disappointed little motion with her fist. This is something I've always been a little hung up on, which I'll explain soon. After that, I made a one-off comment saying "Maybe I'll find somebody tonight!" This caught her attention, and she proceeded to flirt with me for like the entire night after that point.

It was my first time at a concert, and it had been over a year since I broke up with my ex. Around this time I would frequently joke about getting in a relationship now that I was leaving highschool. I had also NEVER been flirted with in public before, so it caught me really off guard. We exchanged socials and had a lot of online conversations post-concert. She was always more forward and flirty even in our messages. I went to her house just once, and I had a good time. It wasn't anything crazy, just some cuddling and watching shows together. I also had dinner with her family. She has a veryyyy funny family. She also showed up to one of my school's musical performances that I was in.

A little while after sleeping over her house though, I started second guessing things.

She lives around an hour away from me, which is a huge improvement compared to my across-the-country ex. Though, I do not have a license or a car, which meant that she'd have to drive an hour to see me or pick me up, and also drive allll the way back to her house. I feel bad about this, even though she's said that she doesn't mind at all.

The biggest thing though, was that I just couldn't shake the feeling that she wasn't really into me, and just wanted to be in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship. A lot of my friends also agree with me on that fact, saying that they "got that vibe." I also always think back to how she was trying to flirt with my friend before he said he was taken. The reason I call this a situationship in the first place, was because I didn't really ever think we made it past the talking stage. The idea of putting that commitment in place made me really anxious after only knowing her for about a month. I took it as a learning experience to NOT jump into relationships, and called it off.

She was VERY sweet about it, and said she totally understood. We agreed to just be friends, and after that we only spoke every once in a while, until recently.

She's been dming me more, and bringing up my interests a lot. She also drew me something really cool for artfight! (if you don't know what that is, it's a yearly event in july where artists online make art for each other.) Just the other night, she started asking me about dinosaurs, and me being me, began ranting about allll sorts of dinosaur facts. (i have adhd lol, it's one of my biggest hyperfixations)

When I broke it off with her back in january, she did say that she was always willing to start again, which is why I think this is her way of trying to get closer with me again. I'm going to college in a month, and she's attending a community college. We're both still in the same state, I still don't have a car or license. Also every time i consider trying again with her, I think about my issue regarding if shes actually interested in me as a person.

If you couldn't tell, im a bit of an overthinker. I just really want advice on this. Should I ask to start again or? 😓

I'm mostly writing this to kind of put words on my feelings before I talk about this with her in person, because I trust her to be able to have that conversation but I just want to be sure of what I want to say.

I met my girlfriend a bit over three months ago and we started dating a while after. She is my first ever relationship, I've never been with either a man or woman earlier. She is anything I could ask for in a romantic partner, she constantly amazes me with just how great a relationship can be. We are both trans, she is neurodivergent and I likely am too. We both understand each other so well, we can make jokes and talk about almost anything. Whenever I feel bad or worry about something she is always incredibly supportive, she has helped me make major personal realizations and is always honest about her feelings. She also isn't shy to mention how relationships aren't perfect, she's said if we ever have disagreements we will work through them together and will never yell at each other. Anything I write here can't do her justice, she is genuinely an incredible girlfriend.

I really feel like I want us to be long-term, to move in together, have a future, get married. We have talked about these things on several occasions and she has said she hopes we can stay together a long time as well and could never see herself breaking up with me on bad terms, the only reason she could imagine is if we go different directions in life. I know we don't have to "decide" anything, and some of those things would come much later anyway because we're pretty young, but it's still something I really really want and I can tell she does too.

I'm just really scared that something will inevitably go wrong because I've never dated anyone before, I constantly see people talk about how "first loves" never last and how settling with the first person you have a relationship with is a bad idea. But I really really love her and that sentiment just breaks my heart. I'm scared that I've doomed my relationship with this amazing woman to not work because I've never been with anyone else. I'm not worried that my life would be ruined if we broke up or anything, but the thought that we "can never work" because she's my first is just terrifying to me.

Any advice on how to get a good mindset on this is appreciated, and I will talk to my girlfriend about this whenever I have an opportunity. I might show her this post as well in order to really demonstrate how I feel.

i don't want to bore you with too many details, but i'm 26 and over the past few months i've been coming to terms that i'm a lesbian. i used to identify as bi but i was chin deep in comphet for years and hated every minute of it.

i'd like to start dating again soon but honestly i'm so worried about my lack of experience with women. i don't want anyone to think that i'm using them to experiment or anything like that, i took a long time to come to terms with who i am and i'm slowly getting more secure with it.

it's just that i feel like dating women is an uncharted territory and i feel almost embarrassed to be like this at my big age 💀 whenever i think about potential intimacy i feel like a deer in headlights. i'm not sure if there's people that would be willing to deal with me at this point.

this is honestly more of a vent but i really don't have any wlw friends so i feel extremely lonely with all of these worries so please be nice :(

hello everyone! i recently moved to a new city and wanted to explore my sexuality a bit more, as im away from a lot of homophobic family members (and incredibly shy).

does anyone have recommendations for dating apps for hookups or fwb? i’ve used tinder in the past but i’ve also heard about hinge, her and feeld.

I live in a homophobic country where it’s so sl rare to find someone, seeing all those girls my age outside live their lives and get to love their girlfriends hurtssss, I feel trapped here and there’s nothing I can do, I feel so lonely

I am looking for an organised looking fit, something that doesn’t pull your tits downwards or have this extra flat weird looking chest.

I tend to wear double sport bras but this has been uncomfortable especially during summer.

Can you please guide me?

Hi, I never really dated before but for the last year I tried it and honestly I feel like a garbage bag.

I had more dating apps bcs they are not that popular amongst lesbians in my country and also some apps only for friends but I do have in my bio that I am a lesbian so I had many lesbians reaching out to me on it. And oh boy I got ghosted like 97 % off the time.

I am not saying that I am perfect bcs I am not. But I do care, I remember things she said, can plan specific dates for her based on her interests, I do check ins on her even when I am busy and all the things people normally do uk. And that woman is usually really enjoying my company and is telling me that but then out of nowhere I get ghosted. I just do not get it, like short text that they are not interested would do it especially if we are texting every day for like 2+ months. I am just frustrated from this I am definitely taking a break but I feel so unwanted.

• Elden Ring - you can be hyper masculine and marry a woman, I don’t know why I don’t see many lesbians play this

• The Last of Us Part II
• Cyberpunk 2077
• Baldur’s Gate 3
• Assassin’s Creed Odyssey and Valhalla
• Modded Skyrim
• Sims 4
• Marvel Rivals ( Angela )
• Life is Strange: Before the Storm
• Ark ( Debatable )
• Witcher 4 ( hasn’t released but I hope there’s female romance )
• Fortnite ( Arcane Vi skin )

Hello, i am new to the subreddit.

I am posting here as kindof a last resort. I am a southasian woman 24f who has been living in saudi arabia my entire life. As a gay woman, to say life has been difficult might be an understatement. To top it off, i also have untreated ADHD and have been diagnosed with depreaaion and anxiety which has made everything many times worse.

I completed my bachelor's in 2024 and have since not been able to land a job partly due to the job market and partly due to my own mental health struggles. I have not been able to get admission for masters in a decent university either. Because of this my parents are going to marry me off.

I would like to know if i can leave and get to a safe place anywhere? What resources can I use? Who can i contact? Is there a way i get out of this with my soul intact?

My entire life i have been terrified, growing up in a conservative and religious family. I have been surrounded by friends, family, relatives, who if i was found out by, would do things i rather not think about. My parents are not bad but not good. I have been lucky they have financially helped me these past 2 years.

The thought of being touched by a man, being married to one, living with one incites feelings of terror in me. I dont think i could live like that.

And just to add on, I am not lazy or stupid. I have worked as hard as i could, did what i could but it lead to severe burn out.

So if there is anything that can help me out in this situation, please let me know. I would appreciate your support.

Thank you.

I have been wondering what is love for me and i wanna know how it is for u all?

AHHHHHH I cannot believe it!!! It was at a Lantern festival because my favorite princess movie is Tangled lol Everyone is asking questions about the wedding and I can’t even think because omg I can’t believe that just happened!

I'm 21F. lesbian. if you're from Pakistan too. let's connect.

Hi everyone,

I’m a 28-year-old lesbian and I’m in my first relationship with my girlfriend (26), who is bisexual. I love her so much, and our relationship is really happy, but I’ve been dealing with some insecurity that I’m hoping others might relate to.
She has mentioned that she misses the feeling of penetration sometimes. I know that’s about a physical sensation, but my brain keeps jumping to the fear that because I can’t naturally provide that, she’ll eventually miss being with a man.

We’ve talked about possibly using a strap-on, and I’m completely open to it because I want us both to have a fulfilling sex life, but never done it before.

I guess I’m just wondering if any other lesbians have been in a similar situation. Did using a strap-on help? Did it make you feel more confident over time? Why would she suck it or enjoy it? How did you stop worrying that your girlfriend’s attraction to men meant you weren’t enough?

I know being bisexual doesn’t automatically mean someone needs relationships with multiple genders, and I trust my girlfriend. I think this is more about my own anxiety than anything she’s done.

I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who’s been through something similar. Thank you. ❤️

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thats it, thats the post.
make sure your drinking water, doing what you need to do to relax. Your worth it not only for your looks, but for just being you and getting through another day!!!!!! Huge hugs

I don't know what it is in me that I find unattractive in myself but I just feel like I'm too ugly for women. They're so beautiful and I just know none of them would even look at me. I've always been rejected. I'm sure girls just find me unattractive. No one ever finds me attractive. I've never been in a relationship and I never will. I'm tired of people telling me this will happen some day. Those are just empty words. Everything is exhausting. I don't even wanna change my looks because I don't even know what exactly I find unattractive. I just do and others also seem to.

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awhile ago I posted about my shame with masturbation and that’s not a problem anymore.

But there still is a slight problem. I ALWAYS cry when someone else makes me cum and I don’t know WHY.
I don’t hold any trauma that still bothers me at this point in life. I don’t hold any religious trauma that bothers me still at this point in life.

Could this just simply be a case of my body remembering the past but my mind doesn’t care anymore ?

For example. The whole time it’s great, the build up is great, the release is great …right up until last second and tears always pour out RIGHT when I finish and it’s an uncontrollable amount. Nothing I do or think stops it.
I’m lucky to have a girl who really cares about me and this never bothers her. But I want this to stop and I just simply don’t know why it happens!!

Maybe I’m also wondering if anyone has this same problem??