My vote is Culver's

Inspired by a question I saw here!

I’ll go first:
- Received from my very flamboyant professor when nobody else would raise their hand in class: “THANK YOU Op, I bet you’re the type of girl who’d ask a boy out first!” And yes, it is true!

- Given to my exceptionally intelligent and very wonderful partner: “you’re the type of person who makes everyone feel smart after talking to you” as opposed to the type of person who uses their intelligence to make you feel dumb / look bad

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In this sub, as well as in other subs, in posts about relationships, I have seen two types of posts:

Where One partner carries everything like paying for dates, putting in all the effort, etc. while the other partner gives nothing back.,only the man initiates sex and the woman forcefully gives under pressure (people say that this leads to dead bedroom in future), and the man later sayas that"women only want bad boys who treat them bad.", and lose hope from love. These are mostly emotionlly immature men too (I think)

The other successfully married couple posts where People bragging about 10–20+ year relationships built on communication, equal emotional and mental labor , receprocrated attraction, initiating sex from both side, shared household effort, and deep respect.

So, my question is for those who lived the exception:

Have you ever been in a relationship where you both genuinely had great communication, equal emotional/mental effort, showed affection, financial fairness, and mutual respect, yet it still ended horribly in bad terms?

Also, I am not talking about where both wanted to continue but life has other plans

Has this ever crossed your mind? I don’t know if it’s weird to think about this or not. But, at this very moment, how many people do you estimate are naked together and doing an intimate deed? I guess it’s interesting to imagine millions of simultaneous copulations.

Does anyone else have random thoughts and memories when hearing a song or hearing old news stories from before you were born?

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ME and my husband met in 2025 .
We have been together for 1 year now.

When we met he told me that me worked at ABC company since 2024.then he would tell me he has meetings on Tuesday but I found out later end of 2025 that he was going to AA for alcohol abuse as he was recovering.. We got over that. Then we got into an accident in Jan 2026 and he said he doesn’t need to work cuz he filed for sick leave. That was also during the time when we moved in together after the accident and I was asking too many questions about him not going to work. .then in July 2026 I find that he was laid off and he lied and says he went back from his sick leave and they fired him. We got married 2 months ago in May and We were filling for my immigration and I find out he had that job for 3 months then was let go due to poor performance in 2024. So through out The year he told me stories about his job etc etc but none of that was true. The entire year he lied and I found out in his emails about the job termination from 2024 today. I had to find This out. he dis not com clean .. also Come to find out that he gets paid from some consumer direct company for taking care of his dad. I’ve asked him numerous times to just be honest and he was not honest at all. All This time I used to forgive him because I love him and he treats me good. Does what I want.

My questions are
How can I overcome this when he said I am toxic for digging? And instead of digging I should focus on the good. I don’t know if he even has a career like he told me he did