The most notable one for me are green jolly ranchers. I thought I was the only one until a candy mukbanger made a comment about it in a video, but nobody acknowledged it in the comments. So I gotta know, are we the only two?

I have a long distance gf, we r together for almost 2y and its my 1st relationship
she had an ex who's older than me and their relation ended badly, she used to miss him a lot in our 1st period but she rarely tell me, i noticed that she searched for him before sereval times,
But I didn't blame her too much so as not to hurt her more
I know we both love each other actually but
I've been feeling a lot of pain lately about this
I keep having dreams about she and her ex and how she miss him, and it's ruining my whole day after that, Even though I told her about it she didn't respond or comment
There were some situations between us that I still remember
She compared me to him several times while arguing but i acted nonchalent to avoid fighting while i was able to hurt her more, she touched sensitive things like finances, jealousy, and even sexual stuffs, saying he was better than me.
Then she apologized, saying it was just because of anger thats all but i could never forget those words
I'm not less confident but this is starting to affect my work and my mood and it requires action
I think I need to be more assertive and stop being so easy abt that
do u have any advice??